Wednesday, July 26, 2017

BEARING AND SHARING THE BURDEN

6 Av 5777 / 28-29 July 2017
Parashat Devarim (Shabbat Chazon)
Torah: Deuteronomy 1:1 - 3:22
Haftarah: Isaiah 1:1-27 (Third Haftarah of Admonition)

This Shabbat is Shabbat Chazon, the Shabbat of Vision, so-called because we read on Shabbat morning the rebuking vision of Isaiah, leading into the observance of Tisha B’Av on Monday night and Tuesday, and the reading of the horrifying vision of the Book of Lamentations. Tisha B'Av, the Ninth of Av, commemorates the destruction of the First and Second Temples in Jerusalem, and numerous other calamities which have befallen the Jewish people on the same date. Please join us for a brief service, reading of Lamentations, study and discussion on July 31, Monday evening at 8:00 pm at Temple B’nai Hayim, 4302 Van Nuys Blvd., Sherman Oaks 91403 (south of Ventura Blvd.). Have a meaningful fast.

NOTE: Membership letters and dues forms for the coming year were sent last week to all Congregation Beth Meier members. Please return them to the CBM office as soon as possible. We are in the final stages of completing our agreement to permanently join with Temple B’nai Hayim. However, contrary to our previous communications, our Shabbat services this week will be held here at Congregation Beth Meier. Assuming that the agreement is finalized in the next week or so, all services commencing Friday, August 11, will be conducted at Temple B’nai Hayim. For future reference, note also that at B’nai Hayim, all Shabbat Evening services commence at 7:30 pm, and all Shabbat Morning services commence at 9:30 am. Shabbat Morning service will generally be preceded by Torah study and light refreshments at 8:45 am. Check calendar below or website for details. And PLEASE READ YOUR EMAILS AND SNAIL MAIL LETTERS FROM BETH MEIER!

Dedications and calendar follow below. For complete listings and lots of other information about our community, see our website at:


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BEARING AND SHARING THE BURDEN

"How (eikhah in Hebrew) can I alone bear your vexation and your burden and your strife?" Deuteronomy 1:12

Rashi: "Even if I were to say that I will do so in order to receive a reward, I may not do so."

Rashi offers the traditional Jewish take on the limits of personal responsibility. One is actually forbidden to voluntarily take on a burden that might be greater than one can bear, even (especially?) if one does so in order to receive a reward from God and/or the community. One may not voluntarily injure oneself (except to save a life); also, too much responsibility assumed by one person can actually do damage to the community.

But what happens when one refuses to accept any share of the burden for communal needs? R. Yosef Yozl Horowitz takes Rashi's comment and stands it on its head. He says, "Traditionally, this verse is read to the melody of Lamentations (Megillat Eikhah, from the first word of Lamentations), to teach us that if a person refuses to assume the responsibility for community needs, and thinks that by doing so he makes things easier for himself, he will in the end find out that matters will be worse for him, and he will remain alone and isolated. How (eikhah) does one dwell alone?" (From Itturei Torah)  As John Donne said: “No man is an island entire of itself.”

We are forbidden to take on so much responsibility that we become a burden on the community. On the other hand, we are forbidden to neglect our obligations to the community. These two teachings together offer a great insight, summed up by Rabbi Tarfon: "You are not obligated to finish the task, neither are you free to neglect it." Avot 2:21 If we share the burden, it's easier to bear. That's community spirit!

Shabbat Shalom! And have a meaningful fast.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Congregation Beth Meier
Studio City, CA
Visit me on Facebook
Twitter: @DrahcirMolf
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 87b
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Candle lighting: 7:39 pm

Friday – Shabbat Evening Service – 8:00 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday – Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
Monday – Tisha B’Av Service – 8:00 pm. Reading of Megillat Eicha – Book of Lamentations. AT TEMPLE B’NAI HAYIM - 4302 Van Nuys Blvd., Sherman Oaks 91403
Tuesday – Tisha B’Av - NO Lunch and Learn! Resume August 8.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of my grandmother, Sarah Flom, whose yahrzeit is 10 Av (next Wednesday) and in memory of Lynn’s grandmother, Martha Stern, whose yahrzeit is 12 Av (next Friday). May their memories be blessings.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Avi Shmuel Yosef Hakohen ben Bella, Yaakov Rani Ben Margalit, HaRav Tzvi Hersh ben Frimet, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky (Serach bat Miriam), Jerry Daniels, Bryon Fendrich (Berel ben Chanah), Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Leonard Foint (Eliezer Moshe ben Esther), Jerry Forman, Myra Goodman, Simon Hartman, Kerry Katz, Dena Kosche (Dena bat Sarah Emanu), Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Toni Linder, Deborah Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), and Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina).

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

My weekly divrei torah are available through free subscription to the Cyber Torah e-mail list. No salesman will call!
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Friday, July 21, 2017

KOSHER WORDS, KOSHER THINGS

28 Tammuz 5777 / 21-22 July 2017
Parashat Mattot - Mas'ei
Torah: Numbers 30:2 - 32:42
Haftarah: Jeremiah 2:4-28; 3:4 (Sephardim add Jeremiah 4:1-2)

NOTE: Membership letters and dues forms for the coming year were sent today to all Congregation Beth Meier members. Please return them to the CBM office as soon as possible. We are in the final stages of completing our agreement to join with Temple B’nai Hayim. However, contrary to our previous communications, our Friday, July 28, and Saturday, July 29 Shabbat services will be held here at Congregation Beth Meier. Assuming that the agreement is finalized in the next week or so, all services commencing Friday, August 11, will be conducted at Temple B’nai Hayim, 4302 Van Nuys Blvd., Sherman Oaks 91403. Note also that at B’nai Hayim, all Shabbat Evening services commence at 7:30 pm, and all Shabbat Morning services commence at 9:30 am. Shabbat Morning service will generally be preceded by Torah study and light refreshments at 8:45 am. Check calendar below or website for details. And PLEASE READ YOUR EMAILS AND SNAIL MAIL LETTERS FROM BETH MEIER!

Dedications and calendar follow below. For complete listings and lots of other information about our community, see our website at:


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KOSHER WORDS, KOSHER THINGS

"If a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath prohibiting something to himself, he shall not profane his word; all that has come from his mouth he must do." Numbers 30:3

”Any articles that can withstand fire, you shall pass through the fire, and they shall be pure, except that they shall be purified with the water of sprinkling (water imbued with red heifer ashes); and that which cannot withstand fire you shall pass through the water." Numbers 31:23

Vows and oaths have extraordinary power - they can turn ordinary objects into things of holiness or prohibition. "I hereby vow to donate this silver cup to the synagogue"; "By my oath, I will not eat meat for six months" - these words have transformative effect over mundane things. This is why Jewish tradition frowns on the recitation of vows and oaths.

Changing the (ritual) nature of objects is accomplished either by words, according to the first verse, or by kashering, making them fit to use, as stated in the later verse. What about the converse? What happens if you profane your word?

If an object is kosher, and is used only for kosher purposes, it remains kosher. If it is defiled, it requires an elaborate process of kashering. Similarly, if you want to retract a vow, the rabbis devised a ritual for doing so. If you have already violated your word, you must do teshuvah - the steps of repentance. Just as it is far easier to maintain the kashrut of an object by not defiling it, so is it easier to maintain the purity of our words by fulfilling them.

So perhaps it is not coincidental that the Hebrew word for "things" and the Hebrew word for "words" is the same word - "devarim". Our words have meaning and power that are tangible. Be a man or woman of your word.

Peace and blessings. Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Congregation Beth Meier
Studio City, CA
Visit me on Facebook
Twitter: @DrahcirMolf
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 87b
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Candle lighting: 7:43 pm

Friday – Shabbat Evening Service – 8:00 pm. Bat Mitzvah of Jayme Drapkin – Mazal tov! Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday – Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 am. Bat Mitzvah of Jayme Drapkin – Mazal tov! The entire congregation is invited to this joyous event! RSVP to CBM office. Kiddush luncheon sponsored by Danny and Teresa Drapkin follows.
Sunday, July 23 – Open House at Beth Meier TO BE RESCHEDULED TO A LATER DATE 
Tuesday – Lunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, July 28 – Shabbat Evening Service – 8:00 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, July 29 – Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 am. Kiddush luncheon follows services.
Monday, July 31 – Tisha B’Av Service – 8:00 pm. Reading of Megillat Eicha – Book of Lamentations. AT TEMPLE B’NAI HAYIM - 4302 Van Nuys Blvd., Sherman Oaks 91403
Tuesday, August 1 – Tisha B’Av - NO Lunch and Learn! Resume August 8.

This d'var torah is offered in honor of Jayme Drapkin on becoming a Bat Mitzvah! Mazal Tov!

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Avi Shmuel Yosef Hakohen ben Bella, Yaakov Rani Ben Margalit, HaRav Tzvi Hersh ben Frimet, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky (Serach bat Miriam), Jerry Daniels, Bryon Fendrich (Berel ben Chanah), Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Leonard Foint (Eliezer Moshe ben Esther), Jerry Forman, Myra Goodman, Simon Hartman, Kerry Katz, Dena Kosche (Dena bat Sarah Emanu), Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Toni Linder, Senator John McCain, Deborah Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), and Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina).

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

My weekly divrei torah are available through free subscription to the Cyber Torah e-mail list. No salesman will call!
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Wednesday, July 5, 2017

THE BEST PLACES

Parashat Balak
14 Tammuz 5777 / 7-8 July 2017                   
Torah: Numbers 22:2 – 25:9
Haftarah: Micah 5:6 – 6:8

Dedications and calendar follow below. For complete listings and lots of other information about our community, see our web site at: http://bethmeier.org

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THE BEST PLACES

"How goodly are your tents, O Jacob, your dwelling places, O Israel." Numbers 24:5

Bil'am, the sorcerer with the alleged ability to put curses on other people, was hired by the Moabite king, Balak, to curse the Israelites. God permits him to utter nothing but blessings. The blessing above is the most famous of these, and is said or sung as we enter a synagogue to begin the prayer service.

Over the millenia, innumerable commentators have offered explanations for this verse. A particularly meaningful one, for me, is given by the 16th century Italian, Rabbi Ovadiah Sforno. Citing other verses as proof texts, he says that "tents" refers to the House of Study – the beit midrash or yeshivah. The "dwelling places" are the House of Assembly – beit k’nesset - synagogue.

Certainly, these are the places where the vast majority of us have our encounters with God - studying holy texts and praying. I would like to take a broader view, by reading the terms "tents" and "dwelling places" in a more literal way. For one thing, we don't need to study or pray only at the beit midrash or beit knesset . We can do those things virtually anywhere. We can turn any place into a beit midrash, so long as we are engaged in the work of studying our holy texts. We can turn any place into a beit k’nesset, so long as we are offering up sincere prayers. But there is more, much more, to practicing Judaism. And there are more places, many more places, for practicing Judaism.

I believe we should read "dwelling places" as our homes, the places where we spend the greatest portion of our time. Then "tents" are temporary places, whether workplaces or summer vacation spots or hospital rooms or supermarkets. These tents and dwelling places, which may be anywhere, are the locations where we put what we learn and pray for into action - the rituals for Shabbat and Yom Tov, kashrut, bal tashchit (not destroying the natural environment), tzedakah (charity), gemilut chasadim (deeds of lovingkindness) - any and all of the commandments. In short, wherever you are is the best place for practicing Judaism and encountering God and improving the world around you, so long as you put forth the effort to make it good.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Congregation Beth Meier
Studio City, CA
Visit me on Facebook
Twitter: @DrahcirMolf
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 87b
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Candle lighting: 7:49 pm

Friday – Shabbat Evening Service – 8:00 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday – Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
Tuesday – Lunch and Learn – 12:00 noon. This is a Fast Day, 17 Tammuz, but there will be lunch for those not fasting.
Friday, July 14 – Family Shabbat Evening Service – 7:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, July 15 – Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Avi Shmuel Yosef Hakohen ben Bella, Yaakov Rani Ben Margalit, HaRav Tzvi Hersh ben Frimet, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky (Serach bat Miriam), Jerry Daniels, Bryon Fendrich (Berel ben Chanah), Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Leonard Foint (Eliezer Moshe ben Esther), Jerry Forman, Myra Goodman, Simon Hartman, Dena Kosche (Dena bat Sarah Emanu), Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Toni Linder, Deborah Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), and Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina).

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

My weekly divrei torah are available through free subscription to the Cyber Torah e-mail list. No salesman will call!
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