Thursday, October 25, 2018

COMMANDED BY EXAMPLES


18 Cheshvan 5779/26-27 October 2018
Parashat Vayera
Torah Reading: Genesis 18:1 - 22:24
Haftarah: 2 Kings 4:1-37 (Ashkenazim); 2 Kings 4:1-23 (Sephardim)

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COMMANDED BY EXAMPLES

"And the Lord appeared to (Abraham), by the terebinths (trees that yield a type of turpentine) of Mamre, as he sat in the tent entrance in the heat of the day. As he lifted up his eyes, he beheld three men standing before him; and when he saw them, he ran to meet them from the tent entrance and bowed to the ground." Genesis 18:1-2

Our Rabbis taught that, in this passage and those that follow, we learn several important mitzvot. First, we learn that just as God and His messengers visited the sick, we should visit the sick (Abraham had just been circumcised).  Second, we learn that just as Abraham greeted the men and offered his hospitality, we should offer hospitality to travelers. Third, we learn that just as Abraham ran to perform that mitzvah, we should run to perform a mitzvah.

Bikkur cholim, visiting the sick, is of the utmost importance. In doing so, in a very real way we bring God's Presence to the sick. We lift their spirits and comfort them, and in doing so, we come to understand their suffering. In telling the sick that we offer prayers for their recovery, they come to know that not only is God aware of their suffering, but that we are aware and care as well.

Hakhnassat orchim, hospitality, is equally important. Offering meals and lodging to travelers, especially strangers, shows the seriousness with which we take the commandment to love the stranger. Even the most luxurious hotels and restaurants maintain some estrangement, but the gracious giving of one's own simple food and shelter is like a warm embrace.

Ratz l'mitzvah kalla k'vachamurah, running to perform even a minor commandment, let alone a major one, shows our eagerness to serve both God and our fellow human beings. The Rabbis taught further that by running to the men, Abraham demonstrated that the mitzvah of hospitality is greater even than greeting the Divine Presence.

What is notable is that there is no commanding language here, no "Thou shalt". The Rabbis derived these mitzvot solely from the actions of God and Abraham. If we can learn these commandments from their actions, think of what our children can learn from our actions. If we visit the sick, feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, and clothe the naked, our children will do so too, and the world can only be a better place for it. Actions truly speak louder, and command better, than words.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Temple B'nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 88a
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Candle lighting: 5:48 pm

Friday:  Shabbat Evening Service – 7:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday: Torah study/breakfast – 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
Sunday: Religious School – 9:30 am.
Tuesday: Lunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

Looking Ahead - Community Menorah Lighting, Hanukkah Play, Latkes, Sufganiyot, and More! Sunday, December 9 - 5:00 pm.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Elisheva bat Malkah, Ze’ev ben Adeline, Liora bat Sarah, Eilite bat Miriam, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Annabelle Flom (Channah Bella bat Kreina), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Brandon Joseph, Gabor Klein, Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Barbara Levy, David Marks, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), Irwin Silon, William Sragow, and Jonathan Woolf.

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Thursday, October 18, 2018

A DEBT-FREE LIFE


11 Cheshvan 5779 / 19-20 October 2018
Parashat Lekh L'kha
Torah: Genesis 12:1 - 17:27
Haftarah: Isaiah 40:27 - 41:16

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A DEBT-FREE LIFE

'Then the king of Sodom said to Avram, "Give me the persons, and take the possessions for yourself." But Avram said to the king of Sodom, "I swear to the Lord, God Most High, Creator of heaven and earth: I will not take so much as a thread or a sandal strap of what is yours; you shall not say, 'It is I who made Avram rich.'"' Genesis 14:21-3.

Our father Avram, soon to become Avraham, demonstrates here a characteristic which we will see again in two weeks, when he negotiates the purchase of a burial plot for Sarah. He does not want to be beholden to any person. He accepts no gifts, he pays retail. No human being can say to Avram/Avraham, "You owe me because of what I gave to you, because of the favors I did for you."

There seems to be a deeper meaning here. Rabbi Harold Kushner points out that the Hebrew word used for "persons" is "nefesh", which literally means "soul". Perhaps Avraham was being asked by the king of Sodom to sell his soul for material riches. (Compare Avraham with Lot, who moves to Sodom ostensibly because it has good pasturage) Interestingly, we are told (Exodus 31:17) that at the end of six days of creation, “(God) rested and was refreshed” – the word for refreshed is yinafash – the root of which is nefesh. Perhaps, when we work on Shabbat (except when we are at risk of losing our livelihood altogether), we are in a real way damaging or selling our souls.

On the other hand, no human being nor human desire can exercise control over Avraham, so he never has to compromise his principles. Avraham is debt-free. He is quite different from politicians who compromise their principles and sell their souls to the highest bidding donors, PACs, and special interest groups. The only one to whom Avraham owes his allegiance is God. Avraham recognizes that, whatever spiritual and material wealth he has, it has come from God, not from another human being. Would that we all could be as astute as he.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Temple B'nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 88a
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Candle lighting: 5:56 pm

Friday:  Shabbat Evening Service – 7:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday: Torah study/breakfast – 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
Sunday: Religious School – 9:30 am.
Tuesday: NO Lunch and Learn on October 23. Resume October 30.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Yitzchak Rabin, who died for the sake of his principles, and whose yahrzeit falls on Sunday, 12 Cheshvan. Y’hi zikhro liv’rakhah.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Elisheva bat Malkah, Ze’ev ben Adeline, Liora bat Sarah, Eilite bat Miriam, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Annabelle Flom (Channah Bella bat Kreina), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Brandon Joseph, Gabor Klein, Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Barbara Levy, David Marks, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), Irwin Silon, William Sragow, and Jonathan Woolf.

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Thursday, October 11, 2018

THE NOT-SO-RIGHTEOUS TZADDIK


Parashat Noach
4 Cheshvan 5779 /12-13 October 2018
Torah: Genesis 6:9-11:32
Haftarah: Isaiah 54:1-55:5

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THE NOT-SO-RIGHTEOUS TZADDIK

"Noah was a righteous man (tzaddik), wholehearted in his generations" (Gen. 6:9)

"For it is you that I have seen to be righteous before Me in this generation." (Gen. 7:1)

There was great disagreement among the Rabbis and many commentators about just how righteous Noah really was. Was he righteous only in comparison to all of the evil people around him, so that in better times he would not have been noteworthy? Or is he truly impressive, being so righteous that he was able to withstand the great evil around him, so that in better times he would have been even more outstanding?

The great weight of rabbinic opinion is that Noah was not so hot, not much of a tzaddik, just the best of a bad lot. The proof of this theory, according to the Zohar, is through comparison to Abraham, who is also described in the Torah as righteous and wholehearted.

When God tells Noah He intends to destroy the world, Noah holds his peace and says nothing. When God tells Abraham that He intends to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, Abraham approaches God and asks, "Will you also destroy the righteous with the wicked?"

In other words, Noah was only looking out for himself. Rabbi Aharon Shmuel Tameret picks up on this, and says that in fact, Noah and his family were punished (!) by being exiled in the ark. Although they were protected from the flood, their isolation in the ark, which they were unable to steer, was a form of punishment. In this view, they were doing penance for the sin of indifference and cold-heartedness.

It has been said that evil flourishes when good people turn away and are silent. Had Noah been more righteous, perhaps he would have saved other people, or even prevented the Flood by convincing others to be righteous. Just as we are able to choose between good and evil, we can also choose the way in which we will be good. We can mind our own business, keep our noses clean, and try to save ourselves. Or we can confront injustice directly, and relieve the suffering of others, and perhaps save the world. How will we be remembered?

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Temple B'nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 88a
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Candle lighting: 6:04 pm

Friday:  Shabbat Evening Service – 7:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday: Torah study/breakfast – 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
Sunday: Religious School – 9:30 am. Sisterhood Meeting – 11:00 am
Tuesday: Lunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of my uncle, Merwin Erenbaum, whose yahrzeit falls on Tuesday, 7 Cheshvan. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - His memory is a blessing.


This d'var torah is offered in memory of my zayde, Sam Flom, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, 9 Cheshvan. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - His memory is a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Elisheva bat Malkah, Ze’ev ben Adeline, Liora bat Sarah, Eilite bat Miriam, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Brandon Joseph, Gabor Klein, Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Barbara Levy, Stuart Lytton, David Marks, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), Irwin Silon, William Sragow, and Jonathan Woolf.

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Thursday, October 4, 2018

EARNING “GOOD” BY DOING GOOD


Tishrei 27, 5779 / October 5-6, 2018
Parashat B’reishit
Torah: Genesis 1:1 – 6:8
Haftarah: Isaiah 42:5 - 43:10 (Ashkenazim); Isaiah 42:5-21 (Sephardim)

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EARNING “GOOD” BY DOING GOOD

'And God said, "Let us make humanity in our image, after our likeness." ..... And God created humanity in God's own image; in the image of God did God create it; male and female, God created them.' Genesis 1:26-7

After creating plants, "God saw that it was good." (Gen. 1:12) After creating the fish and birds, "God saw that it was good." (1:21) After creating crawling things and land animals, "God saw that it was good." (1:25) At the end of all of this creating, "God saw everything that God had made, and behold, it was very good." (1:31)

In the context of all that had been created, humanity was part of all that was very good. However, even though God created humanity in the image and likeness of God, God did not see that humanity was itself good. How could it be that humanity, which the Torah regards as the acme of creation, with dominion over all the earth, could not be seen by God as good?

It is exactly because humanity differs from all other creation. We alone are created in the image and likeness of God. Only we have freewill. But let's not fool ourselves. We are not God; we are _only_ an image, _only_ a likeness - not an exact duplicate.

Everything that God wills is good. But as for us, "if one desires to conduct himself along the path of good and to be righteous, he is free to do so; and if one desires the path of wickedness and to be evil, he is free to do so.... The Creator does not decree humanity to be good or bad" (Maimonides) We are not seen by God, or by ourselves, as good unless we choose to be good. Unlike insects and vegetables, we have to _earn_ the title "good".

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Temple B'nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent.”
BT Yevamot 88a
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Candle lighting: 7:12 pm

Friday A Capella Shabbat Evening Service – 7:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast – 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush luncheon follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am. Take down the sukkah – 9:30 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Elisheva bat Malkah, Ze’ev ben Adeline, Liora bat Sarah, Eilite bat Miriam, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Brandon Joseph, Gabor Klein, Philip Kovac, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Emanu), Barbara Levy, Stuart Lytton, David Marks, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), Irwin Silon, William Sragow, and Jonathan Woolf.

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