Thursday, January 30, 2020

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS


Parashat Bo
Torah: Exodus 10:1 – 13:16
Haftarah: Jeremiah 46:13-28
Shevat 8, 5780 / January 31 – February 1, 2020

CASTING CALL! PURIM IS COMING!

Anyone who wishes to take part in our annual Purim Spiel is invited to come for a read through of this year’s spiel, based on Beach Boys tunes – Tuesday, February 11 at 7:00 pm. No one will be turned away. Purim dinner, spiel and megillah reading will be Monday, March 9, at 6:30 pm. Thanks to Reb Jason and Rebecca Marcus for creating this year’s spiel!

Calendar and dedications follow below. For a full calendar of events and other info about Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier, check out:   www.bnaihayim.com

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

Pharaoh called to Moses and said, "Go - serve the Lord; only your flocks and herds shall remain; even your little ones may go with you." And Moses said, "... And our livestock will go with us; not a hoof will remain; for from it we will take to serve the Lord our God." Exodus 10:24-26

The Yehudi Hakodesh of Pshischa understands this conversation as follows: Pharaoh said, "One may serve God purely in one's mind, without any action. If in truth you desire to serve God, why do you need your animals? Go - serve the Lord, with pure heart and intention, and you will need no animal sacrifices." Moses replied, "Intention alone, with no action associated with it, is unimportant and meaningless. The whole point is the action, which makes the intention profound." The Holy Jew concludes, "It is through action that one is aroused to serve God enthusiastically and to adhere to Him."

Let me be clear - prayer is an important and wholly (holy?) proper way to serve God. That is why we call prayer “avodah” - service. On the other hand, words may be viewed as cheap - we give up nothing, we make no sacrifice, in uttering them. And truthfully, the passive nature of prayer may have no lasting impact on anyone, including ourselves - unless the words ultimately motivate us to action. It’s easy to talk the talk. But walking the walk? Well, that doesn't have to be hard, but it still needs to be done.

If we are to have a positive effect on improving our world itself (tikkun olam), if we are to truly improve ourselves - then it is through the observance of the physical mitzvot. Whether charity, deeds of loving kindness and promoting peace, or kashrut, teaching our children and lighting Shabbat candles - it is through these actions that we truly serve God. In the same vein, positive change in society requires holy action on our part – holy words are not enough! We can improve the world around us and our inner spiritual selves by going beyond ourselves. If you want God to act, you have to act. You too can be an action hero!

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Candle lighting: 5:03 pm

FridayShabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush Luncheon follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am. Rabbi Flom’s “(Re)Introduction to Judaism” class is on hiatus for the month of February. Class will resume March 8. 9:30 am. David Silon’s "History of Israel and the Middle East" class – 11:00 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, February 7 Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, February 8Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush Luncheon follows.
Sunday, February 9Religious School Tu BiSh’vat Seder – 10:00 am. David Silon’s "History of Israel and the Middle East" class – 11:00 am.
Friday, February 14: Cool Shabbat Evening Service with Steve Pearlman and his guitar – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, February 15Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush Luncheon follows.
Friday, February 21Simchah Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Complimentary Shabbat Dinner follows. RSVP to synagogue office.
Saturday, February 22: Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush Luncheon follows. Amy Cecil of Jewish World Watch will deliver a drash during the service and take questions during lunch.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of Phyllis Rubin, who passed away earlier this week. Y’hi zekherah liv’rakhah – May her memory be a blessing.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Leah bat Sarah Imanu, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky, Mark Brownstein, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Gabor Klein, Philip Kronzek, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Imanu), Barbara Levy, Gail Neiman, Sandra Raab, Josef Sands, Shirley Sands, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), and William Sragow.

Friday, January 24, 2020

SPEECH IMPEDIMENT


Tevet 28, 5780 / January 24-25, 2020
Parashat Va’era
Torah: Exodus 6:2-9:35
Haftarah: Ezekiel 28:25-29:21

CASTING CALL! PURIM IS COMING!

Anyone who wishes to take part in our annual Purim Spiel is invited to come for a read through of this year’s spiel, based on Beach Boys tunes – Tuesday, February 11 at 7:00 pm. No one will be turned away. Purim dinner, spiel and megillah reading will be Monday, March 9, at 6:30 pm. Thanks to Reb Jason and Rebecca Marcus for creating this year’s spiel!

Barukh Dayan Emet. The congregation extends condolences to the Foster family on the passing of Tony’s father, Thomas Foster. Funeral arrangements are pending. Y’hi zikhro liv’rakhah – May his memory be a blessing.

Calendar and dedications follow below. For a full calendar of events and other info about Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier, check out:   www.bnaihayim.com

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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SPEECH IMPEDIMENT

"The Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 'Go, speak to Pharaoh, king of Egypt, that he should send the Israelites from his land.' And Moses spoke before the Lord, saying, 'Behold, the Israelites would not listen to me; why then should Pharaoh listen to me, a man of impeded speech?'" Exodus 6:10-12

Rashi: This is an example of a kal v'chomer (a rule of logic for Torah study, an inference from the less obvious to the more obvious - i.e., "if THEY won¹t listen to me, then for sure PHARAOH won¹t listen to me").

The question arises, what did Moses mean by "impeded speech"? The Hebrew says literally, "uncircumcised lips", and the Midrash says that Moses had a physical speech impediment that he developed as a child. However, the Sfas Emes, the third Gerer Rebbe, has a completely different understanding of Moses' statement.

He says that if Jews do not listen to their leaders, there can be no leaders who are able to speak on their behalf. By refusing to listen to Moses, the Israelites made it impossible for Moses' words to reach Pharaoh's ear -­ they deprived him of his ability to lead and represent them - because they "impeded" his speech.

We see this in our everyday lives, whether it has to do with political, business or spiritual leaders, teachers or parents, you name it. Anyone in a leadership role cannot truly lead if the group will not listen. The leader¹s speech is impeded, and so is leadership. For that matter, perhaps after a time the leader is no longer able to properly hear those whom s/he would lead. Refusal to hear can “lead” to a kind of deafness on everyone’s part.

The Sfas Emes quotes Psalms 50:7, "Pay heed my people, and I will speak." Only so long as there are those who will listen, can there be those who would speak.  Sh'ma Yisrael ...

Shabbat Shalom! Chodesh Sh’vat Tov!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Candle lighting: 4:57 pm

FridayShabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am.  Junior Congregation – 10:00 am. Kiddush lunch follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am. Rabbi Flom’s “(Re)Introduction to Judaism” class – 9:30 am. David Silon’s "History of Israel and the Middle East" class – 11:00 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, January 31 Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, February 1Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. 

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Leah bat Sarah Imanu, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky, Mark Brownstein, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Gabor Klein, Philip Kronzek, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Imanu), Barbara Levy, Gail Neiman, Sandra Raab, Josef Sands, Shirley Sands, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), and William Sragow.

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

Friday, January 17, 2020

ONE WHO SAVES A LIFE …


Parashat Sh’mot
Tevet 21, 5780 / January 17-18, 2020
Torah: Exodus 1:1 - 6:1
Haftarah: (Ashkenazim) Isaiah 27:6 - 28:13; 29:22-23; (Sephardim) Jeremiah 1:1 - 2:3

CASTING CALL! PURIM IS COMING!

Anyone who wishes to take part in our annual Purim Spiel is invited to come for a read through of this year’s spiel, based on Beach Boys tunes – Tuesday, February 11 at 7:00 pm. No one will be turned away. Purim dinner, spiel and megillah reading will be Monday, March 9, at 6:30 pm. Thanks to Reb Jason and Rebecca Marcus for creating this year’s spiel!

Calendar and dedications follow below. For a full calendar of events and other info about Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier, check out: www.bnaihayim.com 

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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ONE WHO SAVES A LIFE …

"But the midwives feared God, and they did not do as the king of Egypt commanded them, for they kept the male children alive." Exodus 1:17

Rashi - They would supply them with food and water.

Rabbi Nissan Puchinski - The implication is that had they not supplied them with food and water, they would be considered as murderers, because preventing someone from being saved is considered similar to murder.

Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5 - "One who takes a single human life; it is as if he destroyed an entire world. One who saves a single human life; it is as if he saved an entire world."

In its classic form, the Kabbalistic concept of tzimtzum relates to God withdrawing or contracting in order to make room for the physical universe. However, according to Rabbi Irving "Yitz" Greenberg, after the Shoah, tzimtzum was necessary in order for human beings, no longer willing or able to operate only as God's servants under an imposed mandatory covenant system, to instead become God's partners in a voluntary covenant. God has "self-limited", he says, "contracting divine power in order to empower humanity." Under this theory, every Jew is a "Jew by choice". The purpose of the partnership agreement is tikkun olam - the restoration of a shattered world.

God may have withdrawn from visibly active participation in the physical world, but God is still present in healing shattered hearts and comforting the suffering. God acts through us, as we are told in Isaiah 43:12, "You will be my witnesses." Witnessing is NOT merely watching; it means undertaking action to fulfill the terms of the partnership and improving the world to its ideal state. It is our empowerment with independent action which makes every human being truly "in the image of God". 

Please, donate your time and/or money as generously as you can to organizations that feed the hungry, house the homeless, provide medical care to the needy – you get the idea. Now more than ever - join the partnership! Use your power to save life.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Candle lighting: 4:50 pm

FridaySimcha Shabbat Service and Dinner - 6:30 pm. We celebrate all the January simchas with special blessings and a complimentary Shabbat dinner! 
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am.  Kiddush lunch follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am. Rabbi Flom’s “(Re)Introduction to Judaism” class – 9:30 am. David Silon’s "History of Israel and the Middle East" class – 11:00 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, January 24 Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, January 25Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Junior Congregation – 10:00 am. Kiddush lunch follows.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of David Marks, who passed away on Tuesday. Following cremation, a memorial service and interment of remains will take place at Rose Hills Memorial Park, 3888 Workman Mill Road, Whittier, CA 90601 on Thursday, January 23, at 9:00 am. Y’hi zikhro liv’rakhah – May his memory be a blessing.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Leah bat Sarah Imanu, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky, Mark Brownstein, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Gabor Klein, Philip Kronzek, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Imanu), Ina Labowitz, Barbara Levy, Stuart Lytton, Gail Neiman, Sandra Raab, Josef Sands, Shirley Sands, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), and William Sragow.

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

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Thursday, January 9, 2020

JACOB’S MANTRA


Tevet 14, 5780 / January 10-11, 2020

Parashat Vayechi
Torah: Genesis 47:28 - 50:26 (Chazak, chazak v'nitchazeik!)
Haftarah: 1 Kings 2:1-12

NEW ADULT EDUCATION PROGRAMS AT TBH/CBM!

Starting this Sunday, January 12, we'll have two Sunday morning classes:

1. "(Re) Introduction to Judaism", with Rabbi Richard Flom - Sundays at 9:30 am. This is a wonderful opportunity to learn or relearn everything they should have taught you in Hebrew School - and a whole lot more! This is equally useful for people considering conversion to Judaism. Cost: $180 for non-members, complimentary for members of TBH/CBM

2. "History of Israel and the Middle East", with David Silon - Sundays at 11:00 am. Cost: complimentary to all.

Class schedules, curricula, and reading lists were sent by snail mail this week to TBH/CBM members. Basic class info is available on my blog at:  

https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2020/01/reintroduction-to-judaism.html


CASTING CALL! PURIM IS COMING!


Anyone who wishes to take part in our annual Purim Spiel is invited to come for a read through of this year’s spiel, based on Beach Boys tunes – Tuesday, February 11 at 7:00 pm. No one will be turned away. Purim dinner, spiel and megillah reading will be Monday, March 9, at 6:30 pm. Thanks to Reb Jason and Rebecca Marcus for creating this year’s spiel!

Calendar and dedications follow below. For a full calendar of events and other info about Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier, check out: www.bnaihayim.com 

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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JACOB’S MANTRA

"For Your salvation do I hope, O Lord!" Genesis 49:18

In the middle of blessing his sons, between the blessings for Dan and Gad, Jacob cries out this apparent non-sequitur. Rashi suggests that Jacob is prophesying the moment when Samson (a Danite), blinded by the Philistines, cries out to God for sufficient strength to destroy them (Judges 16:28). Other commentators say that it is a plea for God's protection of the tribe of Dan, which was to be the rear guard during the desert journey. Still others say that Jacob, on his deathbed, is asking God for help to complete the blessings before his strength gives out.

Until recent times, people believed that sleep was a bit like death. Because of this, the Rabbis who compiled the siddur included a prayer to be recited on awakening each morning, which thanks God for restoring one's soul. And in the bedtime prayer, they included the above verse.

However, one does not merely recite the verse. The three Hebrew words of the verse are manipulated so that one recites the following: "For Your salvation do I hope, O Lord. I hope, O Lord, for Your salvation. O Lord, for Your salvation do I hope." Many siddurim say that this formula is repeated three times, so that the verses, and the name of God, are said nine times. It is, in essence, a Jewish mantra. Perhaps it is symbolic of the nine months of childbirth, so that when we recite this portion of the bedtime prayer, we are asking to be "reborn" in the morning.

It is also a plea that God should safeguard the soul should one die during the night. The bedtime prayer is replete with this theme - from the opening blessing through the Hashkiveinu ("cause us to lie down in peace, and to rise up again, our King") to the concluding verse of Adon Olam: "Into His hand I entrust my spirit, when I am asleep and awake; and as with my spirit, so also my body, God is with me and I will not fear."

One need not fear death in order to derive immense comfort from reciting the bedtime prayer. The feeling of having communicated to God one's hopes and fears can be a relaxing conclusion to any day. Recite Jacob's mantra, and sleep well.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Candle lighting: 4:45 pm

FridayShabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Junior Congregation – 10:00 am. Kiddush lunch follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am. Rabbi Flom’s “(Re)Introduction to Judaism” class – 9:30 am. David Silon’s "History of Israel and the Middle East" class – 11:00 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, January 17Simcha Shabbat Service and Dinner - 6:30 pm. We celebrate all the January simchas with special blessings and a complimentary Shabbat dinner! RSVP by January 15!!
Saturday, January 18Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush lunch follows.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Leah bat Sarah Imanu, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky, Mark Brownstein, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Gabor Klein, Philip Kronzek, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Imanu), Ina Labowitz, Barbara Levy, Stuart Lytton, David Marks, Gail Neiman, Sandra Raab, Josef Sands, Shirley Sands, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), and William Sragow.

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

(RE)INTRODUCTION TO JUDAISM


Chaverim nichbadim/Dear friends:

I am pleased to provide a description of my adult education course, suitable for anyone post-bar/bat mitzvah age, “(Re)Introduction to Judaism”.   The course includes workshops for enhancing Shabbat and Holiday observances. Participants may need to purchase some books; the only course requirements are that you attend with an open mind and a willingness to share your ideas.

Our motto: An educated Jew is our best customer! I look forward to learning with you this year.

B’virkat shalom / With the blessing of peace,

Rabbi Richard Flom
  
(RE)INTRODUCTION TO JUDAISM – AN ADULT EDUCATION COURSE AT B’NAI HAYIM

Course Goals:
1.       Expand participants’ knowledge of Judaism – its history, theology, holy texts, life cycle, holy days, rituals, laws, customs, culture, and liturgy.
2.       Encourage further study of Judaism in all its richness.
3.       Encourage greater participation in Jewish life, both communal and personal.
4.       Encourage greater Jewish observance.
5.       To prepare for conversion to Judaism those who are considering that step.

Course Texts:

Jewish Literacy, by Joseph Telushkin (2008 edition preferred; earlier editions are fine)

Tanakh – one of the following: Tanakh (Jewish Publication Society); Jerusalem Bible (Koren Publishing); The Stone Edition Tanach (Mesorah Publications); or, The Jewish Study Bible (Oxford University Press)

It’s A Mitzvah, by Bradley Shavit Artson

The Shabbat Seder, by Ron Wolfson, or a complete Shabbat bentscher

A Jewish calendar which includes all holidays and Torah readings

Hagaddah Shel Pesach (Passover Hagaddah) – Any complete traditional hagaddah in Hebrew/English

Siddur – one of the following: Siddur Sim Shalom (Rabbinical Assembly) – HIGHLY PREFERRED; HaSiddur HaShalem (Birnbaum); Siddur Ahavat ShalomThe Complete Artscroll Siddur (Artscroll)

Choosing a Jewish Life: A Handbook for People Converting to Judaism and for Their Family and Friends, by Anita Diamant (this book or Kling is REQUIRED for those considering conversion to Judaism – otherwise not necessary)

Embracing Judaism, by Simcha Kling, revised by Carl M. Perkins



Additional Suggested readings (in no particular order):

Mitzvah Means Commandment, by Elliott Dorff

Service of the Heart, by Evelyn Garfiel

Entering Jewish Prayer, by Reuven Hammer

My People’s Prayer Book, Rabbi Lawrence Hoffman, ed. (10 volume series)

The Observant Life, Rabbi Martin Cohen, ed.

The Jewish Catalog (three volumes, Strassfeld et al.)

Days of Awe, by S. Y. Agnon

The Synagogue Survival Kit, by Jordan Lee Wagner

Seasons of Our Joy, by Arthur Waskow

The JPS Holiday Anthologies, Jewish Publication Society

Course Work:

There are regular reading assignments for each class. Additional materials will be distributed in class. Virtually every class is self-contained. You can attend any one or more of the classes without having attended others, although previous attendance and preparation of the assigned readings will provide a far better learning experience. Each session, we will discuss the parshiot (the Torah portions) since our previous meeting, the Torah readings for the upcoming Shabbat and holidays, and the reading assignments for the current topic. Participants, particularly those considering conversion or adult b’nai mitzvah, are strongly encouraged to keep a diary of their studies, activities, progress, emotions, etc. This is strictly for personal use.

Classes meet on Sundays, all at 9:30 am, for a total of 20 sessions, starting January 12 and concluding on June 28. NO classes in February, except February 9 there for a Tu BiShevat Seder, as I will be teaching the Religious School while Melinda and Warren Trauman are away. After discussion with the students of this class at our first meeting, we’ll finalize the schedule and readings.


Meeting Dates: 
January 12 
January 19 
January 26 
February 9
March 1 
March 8 
March 15
March 22 
March 29 
April 5 
April 12 
April 19 
April 26 
May 3
May 10 
May 17 
May 31 
June 7 
June 14
June 21 
June 28

Thursday, January 2, 2020

DISHONOR BEFORE DEATH?


Parashat Vayiggash
Torah: Genesis 44:18 - 47:27
Haftarah: Ezekiel 37:15-28
Tevet 7, 5780 / January 3-4, 2020

COMING SOON: NEW ADULT EDUCATION PROGRAMS AT TBH/CBM!

Starting January 12, 2020, we'll have two Sunday morning classes:

1. "(Re) Introduction to Judaism", with Rabbi Richard Flom - Sundays at 9:30 am. This is a wonderful opportunity to learn or relearn everything they should have taught you in Hebrew School - and a whole lot more! This is equally useful for people considering conversion to Judaism. Cost: $180 for non-members, complimentary for members of TBH/CBM

2. "History of Israel and the Middle East", with David Silon - Sundays at 11:00 am.

Class schedules, curricula, and reading lists will be available on-line and in snail mail the first week of January.

Dedications and calendar follow below. For complete listings, see our web site at:  http://www.bnaihayim.com

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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DISHONOR BEFORE DEATH?

"And Joseph could not restrain himself before all who stood by him, and he called out, 'Remove everyone from before me!' So, no one remained with him when Joseph revealed himself to his brothers." Genesis 45:1

Rashi - He was unable to bear that Egyptians should stand by him and hear the humiliation of his brothers when he revealed himself.

A modern commentator, Z. Ron wonders how Rashi could possibly know what Joseph was thinking. Since he was the viceroy, maybe he did not want to embarrass himself before the Egyptians when he began crying. I might add that perhaps he would not want the Egyptians to know that this disheveled band of starving shepherds was his kin. The answer, according to Z. Ron, is in the next verse - "And he wept loudly, and Egypt heard, and the house of Pharaoh heard." Thus, he says, Rashi is right - Joseph chose to embarrass himself rather than his brothers.

Jewish tradition teaches that publicly embarrassing another person is a form of murder. That's why we have the phrase "character assassination". Words, like arrows, cannot be recalled once they go forth. Joseph chose to suffer whatever dishonor there might have been in displaying weakness, rather than have his brothers suffer the "death" of public humiliation.

As it turns out, there was no embarrassment for Joseph at all. That Joseph's brothers had come "... was pleasing in the eyes of Pharaoh and in the eyes of his servants." (45:16) Sparing others from humiliation, and risking it for oneself, reaps respect, not dishonor. We gain respect by respecting the dignity of others.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise?  The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Candle lighting: 4:39 pm

FridayA Capella Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
SaturdayTorah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Kiddush lunch follows.
SundayReligious School – 9:30 am.
TuesdayLunch and Learn – 12:00 noon.
Friday, January 10Shabbat Evening Service – 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat follows.
Saturday, January 11: Torah study/breakfast - 8:45 am. Shabbat Morning Service – 9:30 am. Junior Congregation – 10:00 am. Kiddush lunch follows.
Sunday, January 12: Religious School – 9:30 am.
Friday, January 17Simcha Shabbat Service and Dinner - 6:30 pm. We celebrate all the January simchas with special blessings and a complimentary Shabbat dinner! RSVP by January 15.

Next time you come to TBH/CBM, please bring some non-perishable canned and packaged foods and personal items (no glass) for SOVA.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Leah bat Sarah Imanu, Sarah bat Devorah, Susan Arbetman, Ken Bitticks, Elsbet Brosky, Mark Brownstein, Jerry Daniels, Maya Fersht (Maya bat Esther), Dr. Samuel Fersht (Shmuel Natan ben Gittel), Bernard Garvin, Leah Granat, Gabor Klein, Philip Kronzek, Tonya Kronzek (Zlata Malkah bat Sarah Imanu), Ina Labowitz, Stuart Lytton, David Marks, Gail Neiman, Sandra Raab, Josef Sands, Shirley Sands, Debra Schugar Strauss (Devorah bat Chaya Feiga), Helen Schugar (Chaya Feiga bat Kreina), and William Sragow.

Please let me know if there is anyone you would like to add to this list or if there is anyone who may be removed from this list.

PUTTING GOD SECOND

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