Wednesday, August 26, 2020

THE FORGETTING COMMANDMENTS

Parashat Ki Tetze
Torah: Deuteronomy 21:10 - 25:19
Haftarah: Isaiah 54:1-10 (Fifth Haftarah of Consolation)
Elul 9, 5780 / August 28-29, 2020

Candle-lighting for Friday, August 28: 7:05 PM PDT 

This d'var Torah is offered in memory of Florence Levinson, who passed away on Wednesday. Funeral arrangements are pending. Y'hi zikhronah liv'rakhah - May her memory be  blessing.

Our Refuah Shleimah list can be found at: 

Links to all of our on-line activities can be found below.

For the past few years, I have created a Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet, to help get us ready for the spiritual side of the High Holy Days (sorry, no recipes or floral arrangements!). You can download it from my blog at: 

Rosh HaShanah is three weeks from now! Please submit your Chaver Registration Form ASAP! You can find it at our all-new website: http://www.bnaihayim.org   
And check your snail mail for our High Holy Day bulletin.

We will be streaming our High Holy Day services live via Zoom. If you need assistance in learning how to access those or any other of our services and programs, please contact Reb Jason Van Leeuwen or Rabbi Richard Flom.

We are looking for volunteers for the High Holy Days: chant Torah and Haftarah, daven, lead English readings, and, have aliyot and other honors. Contact Rabbi Flom or Susan Burke by e-mail for details and to sign up!

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THE FORGETTING COMMANDMENTS

"When you reap the harvest in your field and forget a sheaf in the field, do not return to take it; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow, in order that the Lord your God will bless you in all the work of your hand. When you beat your olive trees, do not go over them again; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow. When you harvest your vineyard, do not pick it over again; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow. And you will remember that you were a slave in the land of Egypt; therefore I command you to do this thing." Deuteronomy 24:19-22

In these verses, as well as in Leviticus 19:9-10 and 23:22 ("for the poor and for the stranger"), we are told to intentionally leave grain, olives and grapes - basic foodstuffs which are also, not coincidentally, essential for offering the basic sacrifices to God. These are the necessities of the Israelites' physical and spiritual lives. And yet, according to the Rabbis, the commandment to leave forgotten sheaves in the field is the only commandment in the Torah that, in a way, can be fulfilled unintentionally.

There are several rabbinic tales in which people celebrate the fact that they forgot sheaves in the field. But how can they celebrate unless they remember? It seems that what they are celebrating is that they "remembered" to forget! Sheaves on the ground? Forget about them! Olives still in the trees? Don't go back for them! Unripe grapes still on the vines? Don't do a second harvest. Forget about them!

This is all about overcoming human nature. When gathering in the harvest, anyone would be inclined to go back and get as much produce as possible - it was hard work to grow it, winter is coming, and who knows what the future will bring? But by remembering what it was like to have nothing, we can forget about trying to have everything.

These mitzvot can be fulfilled in a different way today. Please make a generous donation to SOVA, MAZON, or the local food pantry of your choice. Don’t forget!

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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For the time being, we will not be posting separate videos of Torah and Haftarah readings.
   
Join us every Sunday at 11:00 am PDT for "History of the Jews of Israel and the Middle East" with David Silon at: 

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CHESHBON HANEFESH WOKSHEET - 5781


Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet

A Personal Inventory for the High Holy Days – 5781 edition

Traditionally, cheshbon hanefesh, literally an accounting of the soul, is undertaken during the Aseret Yamei Teshuvah – the Ten Days of Repentance from Rosh Hashanah through Yom Kippur. The entire month of Elul is even better, but in truth, any time is a good time.
With openness and honesty, giving the benefit of the doubt to yourself without being extravagant, being self-critical without beating yourself up, evaluate the following on an appropriate scale of your choosing. There is no yardstick. Every person is a work in progress – no exceptions!
Keep notes in a diary and add to them all year. These questions/reflections require much more than a mere score. Please feel free to add any topics you wish to evaluate. Consider both quality and quantity. Don’t forget to answer the most important questions of all: How have I improved since last year? In what areas do I need to improve? What are my goals in those areas? What will I do to reach them? Of course, there is no right answer to any of this ….. is there?

The People in My Life
How are my relationships with parents, children, spouses/life partners, other family, friends, neighbors, strangers, employers, employees, customers, teachers, et al.?
Who did I injure? Who injured me? How? Why? Does blame matter?
What did I do to make amends? Was it enough?
What did/can/will I do to assure it doesn’t happen again?
Did I apologize?
Did I ask for forgiveness? Was I forgiven? How do I feel about that? Was I not forgiven? How do I feel about that?
Did I forgive those who asked for forgiveness? How do I feel about them?
Is our relationship the same – better – worse? Reconciliation?
What did I do to heal the people in my life?
Did I help others reconcile with each other? Am I a rodef shalom?
Are there patterns, habits, addictions in my life I need to change? Are there good patterns and habits in my life that I should utilize even more?
Do I really hear and understand other people – their needs, hopes and dreams? How can/do I encourage them? Do I encourage them?
Do I accept others for who they are, even if they aren’t what I want them to be? Do I have the right to want them to be other than who they are?
Lashon Hara/Rechilut – Slander, gossip, offensive speech
            Did I speak/write it?
            Did I read/listen to it?
            Did I prevent others from spreading it?

God in My Life
Is God in my life?
Do I ever contemplate the Divine?
Do I ever contemplate holiness? Can I be holy? Do I see the holiness in other people?
Do I engage in regular prayer and/or meditation?
            Tefillin
            Daily prayer service/private worship
            Bedtime Sh’ma (teach your children well)
            Blessings for Mitzvot
            Blessings for food/drink
Can I really imitate God?
Did I do teshuvah?
Did I forgive God for what happened to me? Can God cause anything to happen to me?
Do I have a personal theology?

Jewish Ritual/Jewish Observance
Kashruth
            Biblical
            Halakhic - whose halakhah?
            Home
            Out
            Vegetarian
   Vegan

How are my Shabbat and Holy Days (general)?
            Know the stories/reasons
  Candles
            Kiddush
            Family Blessings
            Zemirot – table songs
            Guests
            Refraining from Work
            Attending Services
            Torah Study
            Reflection
            Havdalah
            Fulfilling/meaningful/involved/indifferent
How are my holy days? Do I observe them in some fashion? Do I know what the tradition says? How do I find meaning? Can I/May I/Should I create new traditions?
Specific holy days
            Rosh Hashanah
                        Tashlikh
                        Shofar
            Yom Kippur
                        Fasting
                        Contemplation
                        Teshuvah
            Sukkot
                        Built/ate/studied/slept in a Sukkah
                        Ushpizin – honored visitors
               Lulav and Etrog
            Shemini Atzeret
            Simchat Torah
            Chanukah
                         Chanukiyah/menorah
            Tu BiShevat
            Purim
                        Megillah Reading
                        Shlach Manot
                        Tzedakah
            Pesach
                        Bedikat Chametz
                        Seder
                        No chametz during holiday
            Yom Hashoah
            Yom Ha’atzma’ut
            Shavuot
            Tisha B’Av
            Yizkor – Do I remember those who have gone before me?

Mitzvot – Mitzvah means commandment – or is it a good deed?
            Have I taken on more mitzvot?
            Have I improved my observance of mitzvot I was already doing?
            Have I ceased mitzvot I was already doing?
            How?
            Why?
            Do I find fulfillment in their observance? Am I supposed to?
Judaism - Do I preach it, teach it, live it?

Study
Do I engage in regular Torah study?
Do I read Jewish books and/or periodicals?
What do I know about Judaism generally?
            History
            Holy Days
            Texts – Tanakh, Talmud, Midrash, etc.
            Culture
            Zionism
            Personalities
            Beliefs/tenets/philosophy
            Practices
            Halakhah
            Hebrew language
Israel
The State of Israel
The government of the State of Israel
The people of the State of Israel
The People Israel (am yisrael)
The Land of Israel - these five are all called "Israel" in different contexts - do we understand the differences?

Travel – ever; recently; soon
Support (whatever that means, in whichever way one sees fit)
            How? When? Where? Should these matter?
            Israel Bonds
            JNF
            Israeli products
            Rallies
            Letter writing
            AIPAC
            J Street
            Peace Now
            New Israel Fund
            Other groups
            What do I think about the settlements?
            What do I think about the Occupation?
            What do I think about peace with the Palestinians?
            What do I think about the rabbanut?
            How do I feel about BDS?
Criticize (whatever that means, in whichever way one sees fit)
             How? When? Where? Should these matter?
Zionism - political - types
Zionism - religious - types

Tzedakah/Gemilut Chasadim/Volunteerism
Do I view others as B'tzelem Elohim - in the image of God?
"Tzedek, tzedek tirdof" - Justice, justice you shall pursue
Feed the hungry
Clothe the naked
Defend/care for the stranger in our midst
Hear the cries of others
Charitable donations
            How much tzedakah? (according to Torah and halakhah, tithing [10%] expected)
Donations of Time/Volunteer work
            Congregation
            Other organizations
Donations of Self/gemilut chasadim - acts of lovingkindness
            Bikur cholim - visiting/care for the sick
            Comforting mourners
            Comforting the afflicted

Jewish Community
Do I belong to a Jewish community?
How do I belong?
Supporting without belonging?
How active in congregation?
            Affiliates
            Religious school/teaching
How active in other Jewish groups?
Reaching out to other Jews
Captive Jews
What about everybody else?

My Body, My Self
Exercise
Diet
Self-abuse (drugs, alcohol, tobacco)
Self-control
Care of the body
Care of the soul
Care of the mind
What did I do to heal myself?
Take reasonable advantage of the pleasing things in this world – art, music, good food and drink, travel, etc.

The Physical World Around Me
The environment – b’al tashchit – do not destroy; cleanup; conservation; climate change
Kindness to animals
Stop and smell the roses/meditate on the wonder of Creation?
Tikkun olam?

A Few Final Thoughts for Your Consideration
Do I deserve another year because I have been good?
Do I deserve another year because I will be better? I promise!
Am I prepared to do teshuvahtefillah and tzedakah?

© Rabbi Richard Flom - 2020

Thursday, August 20, 2020

THE MIDDLE OF THE ROAD

Parashat Shoftim
Elul 2, 5780 / August 21-22, 2020
Torah: Deuteronomy 16:18 - 21:9
Haftarah: Isaiah 51:12 - 52:12 (Fourth Haftarah of Consolation)

This d'var torah is offered in honor of Gideon Said, becoming a bar mitzvah this Shabbat. Mazal tov!

This d'var torah is offered in memory of my sister-in-law, Janis Devorah Kronzek, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, Elul 7 (August 27). Forever 44. Y'hi zichronah liv'rakhah.

Candle-lighting for Friday, August 21: 7:14 PM PDT

Our Refuah Shleimah list can be found at: 

Links to all of our on-line activities can be found below.

Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
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Rosh HaShanah is four weeks from now! Please submit your Chaver Registration Form ASAP! You can find it at our all-new website: http://www.bnaihayim.org   
And check your snail mail for our High Holy Day bulletin.

We will be streaming our High Holy Day services live via Zoom. If you need assistance in learning how to access those or any other of our services and programs, please contact Reb Jason Van Leeuwen or Rabbi Richard Flom.

We are looking for volunteers for the High Holy Days: chant Torah and Haftarah, daven, lead English readings, and, have aliyot and other Torah/bimah honors. Contact Rabbi Flom or Susan Burke by e-mail for details and to sign up!

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THE MIDDLE OF THE ROAD

"Thus (the king) will not act haughtily to his fellows or deviate to the right or to the left from the commandment ..." Deuteronomy 17:20

In the verses preceding the above, the king is instructed to always have a personally written copy of the Torah at his side and to study it all his life. It is to serve as a constant guide to him, to keep him from straying off the path that is commanded in the opening verses of this parashah ("Justice, justice you shall pursue" - 16:20 - found at the entrance to the US Supreme Court)

The past few years have seen an increasing coarseness and shrillness in our “civil” discourse. Whether discussing political or economic issues, matters of war and peace, local or international concerns, we seem to be losing our way in the manner in which we treat each other. “Respect” is merely a word. Those in power, those who seek power, and those who support them, at any level of society, more and more often treat those with whom they disagree as the enemy of all that is right and good. Extreme rhetoric begets extreme positions beget extreme conduct - it’s a dangerous path.

It is worth remembering that the Torah has a different approach to how rulers ought to exercise their authority. Staying between the lines of right and left, traveling down the middle of the lane - that is the way to go. What happens when a driver goes too far to the right or to the left? A wreck!

The staking out of extreme positions to placate a "base" is the exact opposite of what the Torah instructs. Look at the road - the lanes are wide - the boundary lines at the edges are narrow. This is why Rambam teaches in Hilchot De'ot (Laws of Character Traits) 1:3 - "The two extremes of each trait, which are distant from each other, do not make a proper path. It is improper for a man to follow them or to teach them to himself." This applies not only to our rulers, but to each and every one of us!

Extreme moderation - that is the rule of the road.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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UPCOMING EVENTS AND OTHER USEFUL INFO! 

Join our Kabbalat Shabbat Service, with Reb Jason and Rabbi Flom this Friday evening at 6:30 pm PDT at: 

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Downloadable and printable Siddur for Kabbalat Shabbat, Shabbat Ma'ariv, Shabbat Morning, and more, available at: 

You can download both Siddur Sim Shalom and Siddur Lev Shalem at the above link.

For the time being, we will not be posting separate videos of Torah and Haftarah readings.
   
Join us every Sunday at 11:00 am PDT for "History of the Jews of Israel and the Middle East" with David Silon at: 

Join us every Tuesday at 12:30 pm PDT for Lunch and Learn, a 60 minute study session. We're learning the weekly haftarah. Join us at: 

Study materials for Lunch and Learn on August 25 may be found at:

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Wednesday, August 12, 2020

TO HAVE AND TO BEHOLD

Parashat Re'eh
Torah - Deuteronomy 11:26 - 16:17
Haftarah - Isaiah 54:11 - 55:5
Av 25, 5780 / August 14-15, 2020 

Candle-lighting for Friday, August 14: 7:22 PM PDT

Our Refuah Shleimah list can be found at: 
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IvKK6of7m1YFiwWATXCfQXrBrjmLMfS_CAM3WhZ_fu4/edit?usp=sharing 

Links to all of our on-line activities can be found below.

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TO HAVE AND TO BEHOLD

"Behold (you - singular), I give before you (plural) a blessing and a curse." Deuteronomy 11:26

Many have wondered - why the change in number? Menachem Mendel, the Kotzker Rebbe, says the Torah was indeed given to "you all" - but that each person beholds in it only that which s/he is capable of seeing and only to the extent of his/her understanding. I would add that this implies the uniqueness of every person’s understanding of the Torah!

Hillel taught: Do not say, "It is impossible to understand this", for ultimately it will be understood. Do not say, "When I have leisure, I will study", for you may never have leisure. Avot 2:5

As a people, we have the gift of the Torah. True, each of us is limited by our ability to understand it. But that gives no excuse to refuse to learn! In the end, each of us can understand it, do it to the best of our ability and transmit our understanding to others - but only if we first take the time to behold it!

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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UPCOMING EVENTS AND OTHER USEFUL INFO! 

Join our Kabbalat Shabbat Service, with Reb Jason and Rabbi Flom this Friday evening at 6:30 pm PDT at: 

Join our Shabbat Morning Service with Reb Jason and Rabbi Flom this Saturday morning at 10:00 am PDT at:

Downloadable and printable Siddur for Kabbalat Shabbat, Shabbat Ma'ariv, Shabbat Morning, and more, available at: 

You can download both Siddur Sim Shalom and Siddur Lev Shalem at the above link.

For the time being, we will not be posting separate videos of Torah and Haftarah readings.
   
Join us every Sunday at 11:00 am PDT for "History of the Jews of Israel and the Middle East" with David Silon at: 

Join us every Tuesday at 12:30 pm PDT for Lunch and Learn, a 60 minute study session. We're learning the weekly haftarah. Join us at: 

Study materials for Lunch and Learn on August 18 may be found at:

You can subscribe to the weekly Torah Sparks via email here: 

Cyber Torah list management (no salesman will call!): 
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