Wednesday, September 28, 2022

Rosh Hashanah 5783 Day 2

Rosh Hashanah 5783 Day 2 

    Shanah Tovah! B’rukhim Haba’im – Blessed are those who have come to join us in person and on Zoom. I’m glad you can be with us today! I think all of us wish a yasher koach to everyone who has helped in conducting services, leyning torah and haftarah, and generally keeping everything organized and moving along – especially our office staff and ushers here and on-line. I offer a special yasher koach to Rabbi Van Leeuwen, our Reb Jason, for his davening and his teaching and his leadership. And thank you, Rabbi, for encouraging me to share these words with our community today.
As most of you know, I “retired” from the pulpit rabbinate just over a year ago. But retirement for rabbis is a strange and wondrous thing. I’m still a rabbi – I didn’t give up my license! And I’m still rabbi-ing! But not full time, and more or less on my own terms. I have the privilege of continuing to serve you on an occasional basis at services, I still teach my Lunch and Learn class as I have for over 20 years, and I still serve the broader community by overseeing Jewish divorces and conversions – more often now that I have more time. But I can skip a board or committee meeting without wondering how they got on without me or whether they were upset that I wasn’t there. In short, I have fewer responsibilities. I cook and bake more, which is awesome for me! And I have more time to reflect and philosophize about what was and what will be.
Like now. Today. These Days of Awe, these Yamim Nora’im  we have just entered are supposed to be a time of introspection in the form of cheshbon hanefesh, an accounting of the soul, leading to teshuvah – repentance or turning oneself around. The prayers of this Rosh Hashanah day get us started on that path – we admit to generalized wrongdoing and ask God to forgive us and “write us in the Book of Life”, to give us another year, another chance. On Yom Kippur, we will in earnest confess all of our sins, real or imagined, in the form of the short confessional we call “Ashamnu”, and the long confessional we call “Al Chet”. Some machzorim have additional sins to confess – and some machzorim also have mitzvot, positive accomplishments to confess, to remind God and ourselves that we aren’t as bad as the Ashamnu and Al Chet would have us believe. About 20 years ago, Rabbi Joseph Telushkin published such a list, “For the Mitzvot We Performed”, based on the Al Chet - I used to hand it out at services. (https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AkBlitQmdWSRnc5xz58pyBlsx6Bpwbw7/view?usp=sharing)
More recently, Reb Jason mentioned a positive confessional based on Ashamnu. It’s sometimes attributed to Rav Kook, who died in 1935, but it is actually of more recent vintage, composed by an Israeli rabbi about 10 years ago. (https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QAU7YqdBQDYoQErGpSLKf182ecQBD3oJ/view?usp=sharing

These things, these confessions of guilt and reminders of our positive traits have great value, because they give us a more complete perspective of ourselves and remind us that we are works in progress – there is no finality to our lives, although there will of course come an end. But I must tell you that I don’t believe that that end is going to be determined by God today, or tomorrow, or on Yom Kippur, or on any other day. On the other hand, we do write for ourselves our own Sefer Chaim, our own Book of Life, by simply living our lives as best we can in the time we have, and to find meaning in even the simplest things.
And that, my friends, brings me to Sukkot! More specifically, it brings me to one of the most misunderstood books of Tanakh, Kohelet – Ecclesiastes, which we read on Sukkot. I seriously believe that Megillat Kohelet is the antidote to problematic Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur theology, just as Chag Sukkot itself, HeChag – the ultimate celebratory festival, is the antidote to the ascetic breast-beating Yom Kippur. And I want to talk to you about Kohelet and Sukkot today because I think we moderns need them in order to get through Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. We need Sukkot, and we need Kohelet. More than we know.
Yesterday, we read and sang the haunting and truly disturbing Unetaneh Tokef – we will do so again in a little while. Today is the Day of Judgment, “Hinei yom hadin!” the angels cry out. God is going to decide who will live, who will die, who will be at ease, who will suffer, and so on. Uteshuvah utefila utzedakah ma’avirin et roa hagezeirah – but repentance, prayer and charity reduce the severity of the decree. Is it really so?
We get a hint, derived from Kohelet himself, immediately after uteshuvah utefila, that there’s a certain transience and fragility to our lives that we cannot control, despite our best efforts. That is, to say that perhaps repentance, prayer, and teshuvah won’t save us from death this year after all. Adam yesodo mei’afar, v’sofo l’afar – man’s origin is dust and his end is dust – it’s actually a close paraphrase of Kohelet himself. That paragraph also says we are “Ukh’tztitz noveil” – like the flower that withers. And that word, noveil - to wither, I believe is from the same root as hevel, the word in Kohelet that is so often translated as “vanity” but which really implies a mere wisp of breath.
Kohelet is a true existentialist – i.e., he deals with the problem of human existence in a way which specifically rejects the seemingly harsh, arbitrary determinism of God’s judgment as laid out in the Machzor. In his brilliant translation of Kohelet, Robert Alter points out that Kohelet seems more often than not to use the word Elohim, which we always translate as God, to mean Fate, or the fates, or mere chance. We don’t know, and we can’t know, what will be. So we take what comes – and find joy in what we can and what we have.
There’s a tradition that the man Kohelet is actually King Solomon, and that Megillat Kohelet is a bookend to Shir Hashirim – the Song of Songs also attributed to King Solomon. Shir Hashirim is written in his youth and early manhood; Kohelet in the autumn of his years, reflecting on his life. So why do we read Kohelet on Sukkot?
One obvious answer is that Solomon dedicated the Temple in Jerusalem on Sukkot, so of course we would read something attributed to him. But a closer reading tells me more – i.e., that it is the philosophy of Kohelet and his instruction to enjoy what life we have the best we can that is the reason. In rabbinic tradition, Sukkot is regarded as the most joyful of all the chagim – even more than Pesach!
The Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur liturgy and theology tell us we have sinned, we need to reflect, we need to make amends, we need to apologize – what Reb Jason spoke of yesterday. Sukkot, and Kohelet, tell us not that it is all “vanity” – that is a mistranslation – but that there must come an end to that sort of ascetic self-afflicting behavior, and also that there must be an acceptance that we are all imperfect - and that that is okay! We should be grateful for what we have, the gifts of God and Creation, share it with others as much as we can, as we are commanded to by the Torah, and to enjoy the simple pleasures of life – to eat, to drink, and to love.
The idea of eating and drinking fits in perfectly with Sukkot. It’s a celebration of the harvest. And Solomon dedicated the Temple on Sukkot precisely because the people would be there for the Festival of Sukkot. And he turned it into the biggest party ever held in Jerusalem! With apologies to the vegetarians here - eight days of barbecue and wine and singing and dancing! But I also said that Kohelet said one of the simple pleasures in life that we must enjoy is love.
I have a new favorite quote from Tanakh, from Chapter 9, Verse 9 of Kohelet:
                    רְאֵה חַיִים עִם אִֹשָה אַֹשֶר אָהַבְתָ

“Enjoy happiness with a woman you love - all the fleeting days of    life that have been granted to you under the sun—all your fleeting days. For that alone is your share out of life and out of the means you acquire under the sun.” That’s you, Lynn.

In my view, Kohelet is neither hedonistic nor cynical – he tells us that we are to live with as much joy as we can – yes, and to serve God in joy as well. He affirms joy and finds meaning in the small things in life, which is transient – hevel. Food, drink, love – also friendship and joy – these are the things that move Kohelet after all the riches he claims to have amassed, all the stuff he has owned. Ultimately, all that stuff is irrelevant and useless, and never satisfies – “A lover of money never has his fill of money, nor a lover of wealth his fill of income. That too is hevel” – a transient wisp.
"There is nothing better than man rejoicing," and "nothing is better for man under the sun than to eat, drink, and be joyful." Kohelet also exhorts us to "Go, eat your bread with joy, drink your wine with a content mind; for God has already graced your deeds." 
Kohelet seeks wisdom, and what he means by that is both understanding and meaning. What are the things that really matter in life? It’s not stuff – stuff that can’t go with you to the grave, stuff that will ultimately fall into the hands of others. It’s the intangibles that matter.
And that is why we seek to heal relationships during Aseret Yamei Teshuvah, the Ten Days of Repentance – so that on Sukkot, we can celebrate with the great joy that comes from knowing we have healed others and ourselves. That is my prayer for all of us.
Chaverim, Lynn and I hope you will be able to join us on Sunday, October 9 at our home for pizza in the hut, and more, sponsored by the congregation. We must have your reservation in the synagogue office no later than 1:00 PM Monday, October 3, so we can be sure to have enough pizza, salad, fruit, dessert, soft drinks, and of course – wine! There’s no charge, but donations will be gladly accepted.
We wish you a Shanah Tovah Shel Shalom, Bri’ut, Simchah, Chochmah, U’Mashma’ut – A Happy New Year of Peace, Health, Joy, Wisdom, and Meaning.

Tuesday, September 20, 2022

YOU’VE GOT A SECRET!

Elul 28, 5782 / September 23-24, 2022
Parashat Nitzavim
Torah: Deuteronomy 29:9 – 30:20
Haftarah: Isaiah 61:10 - 63:9 (Seventh Haftarah of Consolation)
--------------------------------------------------------------
My Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet - 5783 Edition, is now available at my blog:
https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2022/08/cheshbon-hanefesh-worksheet-5783.html 
I hope you find it useful.
-------------------------------------------------
This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina, Feigel bat Kreina, and Devorah bat Feigel.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of Rachel Robbins, former long-time member and board officer of Burbank Temple Emanu El, who passed away on Sunday. Y’hi zekherah liv’rakhah - May her memory be a blessing.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of my grandmother, Cora Slome, whose yahrzeit falls on Shabbat, Elul 28. Y’hi zekherah liv’rakhah - May her memory be a blessing.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------
Lunch and Learn meets Tuesdays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. We're continuing to read and discuss the Midrashic collection Ein Ya'akov. On October 4, we'll be at BT Shabbat 15a - page 112 of Ein Ya'akov Volume 1 - "...אמר רב כהנא" - "R. Cahana said:..." Or, we might do something a little different for Yom Kippur.

There will be NO Lunch and Learn in September due to travel and holy days. We will next meet on October 4, Erev Yom Kippur. 
 
Ein Ya'akov is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at: 

https://hebrewbooks.org/9630 
-----------------------------------------------
Rabbi Van Leeuwen has a blog which you should read at: 

Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
https://midrashsrp.wordpress.com 
---------------------------------------------------------------------- 
Check out our wonderful community, and get lots of info about our various programs and becoming a Member at: https://bnaihayim.org/ 
 
Rosh Hashanah begins Sunday evening! For more info call the temple office at (818) 788-4664. 
 
Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------
YOU’VE GOT A SECRET!

“The secret things belong to the Lord our God; and those things which are revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may observe all the words of this Torah.” Deuteronomy 29:28


"You are standing here this day, all of you."

A number of Midrashim say this verse concerns sins committed in private – we cannot hide them - God still knows about them (and so does our conscience!). Some Chasidic teachers say that a person of great modesty and humility is a “tzaddik nistar”, a hidden tzaddik, who conceals his/her righteousness and good deeds from others, by doing them in secret - but God still knows about them. Both of these understandings tie in quite nicely with the traditional theological theme of Yamim Noraim - the Days of Awe that we are about to enter. That is, God takes an accounting of us, toting up the good, the bad and the ugly, and deciding what to do with us in the coming year.

The great Chasidic teacher Menachem Mendel of Kotzk takes a slightly different tack, and applies the verse to “cheshbon hanefesh”, the self-examination, literally the accounting of the soul, that tradition teaches we are to do at this time of year. The Kotzker says that the tzaddik nistar is one whose righteousness is hidden from the very self - this is someone who has no idea of their own righteousness.
(Along these lines, see my Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet - https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2022/08/cheshbon-hanefesh-worksheet-5783.html 
and הודוי המשלים -  The Supplementary Confession for Good created by Rabbi Binyamin Holtzman and often misattributed to Rav Kook - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QAU7YqdBQDYoQErGpSLKf182ecQBD3oJ/view?usp=sharing)  

The lesson, as I see it, is that each and every one of us is potentially a tzaddik nistar. The trick is not to think that you really ARE such a tzaddik - there's a certain lack of humility. But, by being totally honest with ourselves in our self-evaluation, we may be able to learn how to continue to behave as well as how not to behave, and we can pass on all of that information to our children, directly and by example. If we do something wrong, we teach our children from our mistakes. And if we do something right, then they see it and we encourage them to follow. In short, don’t be overly hard on yourself - you just might be better than you think you are!

SHABBAT SHALOM!
L’SHANAH TOVAH U’METUKAH TIKATEIVU V’TIKHATEIMU!
MAY YOU BE INSCRIBED AND SEALED FOR A GOOD AND SWEET NEW YEAR!

Richard A. Flom, Rabbi Emeritus
TBH/CBM
Sherman Oaks, CA
".איזה הוא חכםהלומד מכל אדם"
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
-----------------------------------------------
Cyber Torah list management (no salesman will call!):
To subscribe to Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Subscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
Send requests for dedications of Cyber Torah in honor of a simchah, in memory of a loved one or for a refuah shleimah to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
To unsubscribe from Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Unsubscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 

Wednesday, September 14, 2022

FULL OF JOY

Elul 21, 5782 / September 16-17, 2022
Parashat Ki Tavo
Torah: Deuteronomy 26:1 - 29:8
Haftarah: Isaiah 60:1-22 (Sixth Haftarah of Consolation)
--------------------------------------------------------------
My Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet - 5783 Edition, is now available at my blog:
https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2022/08/cheshbon-hanefesh-worksheet-5783.html 
I hope you find it useful.
-------------------------------------------------
This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina, Feigel bat Kreina, and Devorah bat Feigel.

This d’var torah is offered in memory of Rabbi Meier Schimmel, founding rabbi of Congregation Beth Meier, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, Elul 26. Y’hi zekher tzaddik liv’rakhah.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------
Lunch and Learn meets Tuesdays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. We're continuing to read and discuss the Midrashic collection Ein Ya'akov. On October 4, we'll be at BT Shabbat 15a - page 112 of Ein Ya'akov Volume 1 - "...אמר רב כהנא" - "R. Cahana said:..." Or, we might do something a little different for Yom Kippur.

There will be NO Lunch and Learn in September due to travel and holy days. We will next meet on October 4, Erev Yom Kippur. 
 
Ein Ya'akov is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at: 

https://hebrewbooks.org/9630 
-----------------------------------------------
Rabbi Van Leeuwen has a blog which you should read at: 

Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
https://midrashsrp.wordpress.com 
---------------------------------------------------------------------- 
Check out our wonderful community, and get lots of info about our various programs and becoming a Member at: https://bnaihayim.org/ 
 
Rosh Hashanah is one week from Sunday! Please submit your TBH Membership/High Holy Day forms ASAP! Check your mail for the High Holy Day bulletin! For more info call the temple office at (818) 788-4664. 
 
Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------
FULL OF JOY

"And you shall rejoice in every good thing which the Lord your God has given to you, and to your house, you, and the Levite, and the stranger that is among you. When you have made an end of tithing all the tithes of your increase the third year, the year of tithing, and have given it to the Levite, the stranger, the orphan, and the widow, that they may eat within your gates, and they will be filled." Deuteronomy 26:11-12


"Offering of the First Fruits" - Providence Lithograph Company, circa 1900

Rabbi Barukh Brofman: ‘This is a reference to Birkat Hamazon (Blessing after the Meal) - "Do not let us need the gifts of flesh and blood". For this we thank God. Specifically - "You shall rejoice in every good thing - which the Lord has given you."’

Tiferet Shlomo: ‘The Torah adds "and they will be filled" to teach us that one must give generously - otherwise there is no blessing in it.’

Most of us do not rely upon charity (tzedakah) - and we SHOULD be thankful for that. But thanking God (through Birkat Hamazon) is an empty ritual if we do not do what we can to help others be in a position of thanking God as well. As the first verse implies, God has given every good thing to everyone - so it's up to us that actually have those things to make sure that they are also distributed to those that do not yet have them.

We learn on Yom Kippur in Unataneh Tokef that "tzedakah reduces the severity of the decree". (See also Proverbs 10:2 and BT Baba Batra 10a – “charity delivers from death”) It does not mean that our charity saves us – rather, our tzedakah reduces the severe decree (i.e., hunger and poverty) that might otherwise be suffered by others, the recipients of our gifts.

Celebrate through giving - then you and they will be filled - with joy.
 
Shabbat Shalom!

Richard A. Flom, Rabbi Emeritus
TBH/CBM
Sherman Oaks, CA
".איזה הוא חכם? הלומד מכל אדם"
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
-----------------------------------------------
Cyber Torah list management (no salesman will call!):
To subscribe to Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Subscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
Send requests for dedications of Cyber Torah in honor of a simchah, in memory of a loved one or for a refuah shleimah to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
To unsubscribe from Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Unsubscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 

Tuesday, September 6, 2022

THE FORGETTING COMMANDMENTS

Parashat Ki Tetze
Elul 14, 5782 / September 9-10, 2022
Torah: Deuteronomy 21:10 - 25:19
Haftarah: Isaiah 54:1-10; 54:11-55:5 (Fifth Haftarah of Consolation, followed by Third Haftarah of Consolation - it's complicated)
--------------------------------------------------------------
My Cheshbon Hanefesh Worksheet - 5783 Edition, is now available at my blog:
https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2022/08/cheshbon-hanefesh-worksheet-5783.html 
I hope you find it useful.
-------------------------------------------------
This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina, Feigel bat Kreina, and Devorah bat Feigel.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------
Lunch and Learn meets Tuesdays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. We're continuing to read and discuss the Midrashic collection Ein Ya'akov. On October 4, we'll be at BT Shabbat 15a - page 112 of Ein Ya'akov Volume 1 - "...אמר רב כהנא" - "R. Cahana said:..." Or, we might do something a little different for Yom Kippur.
 
There will be NO Lunch and Learn in September due to travel and holy days. We will next meet on October 4, Erev Yom Kippur. 
 
Ein Ya'akov is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at: 
HebrewBooks.org Sefer Detail: Ein Yakkov Vol 1 -- S. H. Glick 
-----------------------------------------------
Rabbi Van Leeuwen has a blog which you should read at: 
https://rebjasonblog.wordpress.com/blog/ 
Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
https://midrashsrp.wordpress.com 
---------------------------------------------------------------------- 
Check out our wonderful community, and get lots of info about our various programs and becoming a Member at: https://bnaihayim.org/ 
 
Rosh Hashanah is two weeks from Sunday! Please submit your TBH Membership/High Holy Day forms ASAP! Check your mail for the High Holy Day bulletin! For more info call the temple office at (818) 788-4664. 
 
Please feel free to pass this on to a friend, and please cite the source.
--------------------------------------------------------------
THE FORGETTING COMMANDMENTS
 
"When you reap the harvest in your field and forget a sheaf in the field, do not return to take it; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow, in order that the Lord your God will bless you in all the work of your hand. When you beat your olive trees, do not go over them again; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow. When you harvest your vineyard, do not pick it over again; it shall be for the stranger, orphan and widow. And you will remember that you were a slave in the land of Egypt; therefore I command you to do this thing." Deuteronomy 24:19-22
 
In these verses, as well as in Leviticus 19:9-10 and 23:22 (leaving the corners of the field and fallen fruit "for the poor and for the stranger"), we are told to leave grain, olives and grapes - basic foodstuffs which are also, not coincidentally, essential for offering the basic sacrifices to God. These are the necessities of the Israelites' physical and spiritual lives. And yet, according to the Rabbis, the commandment to leave forgotten sheaves in the field is the only commandment in the Torah that, in a way, can be fulfilled unintentionally.

The Gleaners - Julien Dupré, 1880

There are several rabbinic tales in which people celebrate the fact that they forgot sheaves in the field. But how can they celebrate unless they remember? It seems that what they are celebrating is that they "remembered" to forget! Sheaves on the ground? Forget about them! Olives still in the trees? Don't go back for them! Unripe grapes still on the vines? Don't do a second harvest. Forget about them!
 
This is all about overcoming human nature. When gathering in the harvest, anyone would be inclined to go back and get as much produce as possible - it was hard work to grow it, winter is coming, and who knows what the future will bring? But by remembering what it was like to have nothing, we can forget about trying to have everything.
 
These mitzvot can be fulfilled in a different way today. Please make a generous donation of food or money to SOVA, MAZON, or the local food pantry of your choice. Don’t forget!
 
Shabbat Shalom!
Richard A. Flom, Rabbi Emeritus
TBH/CBM
Sherman Oaks, CA
".איזה הוא חכם? הלומד מכל אדם"
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
-----------------------------------------------
Cyber Torah list management (no salesman will call!):
To subscribe to Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Subscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
Send requests for dedications of Cyber Torah in honor of a simchah, in memory of a loved one or for a refuah shleimah to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 
To unsubscribe from Cyber Torah, send an e-mail with the subject heading “Unsubscribe Cyber Torah” to: ravflom@sbcglobal.net 

PUTTING GOD SECOND

Parashat Vayera Cheshvan 15, 5783 / November 15-16, 2024 Torah: Genesis 18:1-22:24 Haftarah: Kings II 4:1-37 (Ashkenazic); Kings II 4:1-23 (...