Tuesday, December 19, 2023

SAME AS HE EVER WAS

Parashat Vayiggash
Tevet 11, 5784 / December 22-23, 2023
Torah: Genesis 44:18 - 47:2
Haftarah: Ezekiel 37:15-28
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This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
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SAME AS HE EVER WAS

‘And Joseph said to his brothers, “Please come near to me,” and they came near; and he said, “I am Joseph, your brother, whom you sold into Egypt.”’ Genesis 45:4.

Menachem Mendel, the Kotzker Rebbe, interprets our verse in this way: “I am the same Joseph that I was when you sold me into Egypt. I did not change in this corrupt country, and you do not have to be afraid that you caused me to become corrupted. I am Joseph your brother, the son of Jacob, just as then, when ‘you sold me into Egypt.’”



"Joseph Recognized by His Brothers" (Léon Pierre Urbain Bourgeois - 1863) 

Joseph appeared to be an Egyptian. He spoke the language. He dressed like Egyptian royalty. He had power equivalent to that of Pharaoh. In order to do his job properly, he had to be more than passingly familiar with and sensitive to Egyptian religion, culture, politics, etc. He was an Egyptian. And yet, in his essence, he was the same Joseph he had always been - the son of Jacob, loyal to the God of Israel.

The United States is not Egypt, thank God. But there is no question that America creates danger for Jews in terms of total assimilation and the end of Jewish identity. However, one can be a serious and practicing Jew and still actively take part in the larger secular, non-Jewish culture. But it requires fortitude and an awareness of boundaries, as well as education in Judaism. The Midrash tells us that Joseph thought constantly of his heritage, of his father and of his God. By doing so, Joseph maintained his identity (and his sanity!), despite being a stranger in a strange land.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, December 12, 2023

NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT

Parashat Miketz
Tevet 4, 5784 / December 15-16, 2023
Torah: Genesis 41:1 - 44:17
Haftarah: 1 Kings 3:15 - 4:1
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This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. On Monday, December 18, we'll be at BT Shabbat 119b, page 194 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  "...אמר רב יהודה בריה דרב שמואל משמיה דרב" "R. Juda, the son of R. Samuel, in the name of Rab, said ....”

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NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT

"Now let Pharaoh seek out a discerning and wise man and set him over the land of Egypt ." Gen. 41:33

Joseph Interprets the Dream of Pharaoh (Jean-Adrien Guignet)

Rabbi Shalom Schwadron asks this question: Why was a "discerning and wise man" needed to oversee the collection of provisions during the seven years of plenty?

He suggests that gathering and saving food during a time of abundance in preparation for a famine in the future requires true wisdom and understanding, because it is against human nature. He quotes the Talmud (BT Tamid 32a): "Who is wise? One who has foresight." What is more, Joseph had to convince Pharaoh and the entire Egyptian nation to share in this foresight, which required even further wisdom on his part.

In our own lives, we often look back at missed opportunities. For example, when our children are young, we have many chances for teaching them about our heritage. There are Shabbat and Holy Day observances, religious school education, and what the educators call "teaching moments" which can arise at any time. Once they are gone, they are gone forever. It's true that Shabbat comes every week, and the festivals come annually, but _this_ Shabbat and _this_ religious school class will never come again.

As we and our children grow older, the missed opportunities begin to pile up. Work, school, activities and the like begin to take over, and the religious and spiritual education begins to take a back seat. At some point, we look back and tell ourselves that we know too little and that it is too late to get the education we lack. We begin to wonder why our children know so little, and do not practice the religion of our ancestors.

Of course, it's never too late to learn! Nevertheless, we need to bank learning and practice now, for the famine of opportunity which we know will come. The difference between us and Joseph is that he knew exactly when the famine would begin. We are not that wise. But we are wise enough to know that there is no time like the present to begin to add to our stores of knowledge and observance. In doing so, we avoid spiritual starvation in the lean years to come.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, December 5, 2023

THE SECRET?

Kislev 26, 5784 / December 8-9, 2023
Parashat Vayeishev
Torah: Genesis 37:1 – 40:23
Maftir: Numbers 7:18-23 
Haftarah: Zechariah 2:14 - 4:7 
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Reb Jason is away this Shabbat to observe  shivah for his brother Aaron Van Leeuwen, z'l. In his absence, I'll be conducting services this Shabbat. We extend our condolences to Reb Jason and his family on the passing of his brother. Y'hi zikhro barukh.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. On Monday, December 11, we'll be at BT Shabbat 119a, page 192 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  "..רב ששת בקיטא" - "R. Shesheth, in the summer....”

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THE SECRET?

"And Judah said to his brothers, "What advantage is there if we slay our brother and conceal his blood?" Genesis 37:26

A traditional understanding of this verse is that Judah sees an opportunity to get rid of Joseph and profit at the same time (while saving his life). That is why the brothers ultimately decide to sell Joseph into slavery. But Rebbe Menachem Mendel of Kotzk has a very different take on the verse.

The Kotzker focuses not on the profit motive, but on the idea of hiding the deed. He says, "If we are forced to conceal the matter and to keep it secret, that is a sign that it is wrong. Every secret is like a type of theft."

Jacob Sees Joseph's Coat (painting circa 1816–1817 by Friedrich Wilhelm Schadow)


In the Kotzker's view, Judah is saying there is no benefit whatsoever in eliminating Joseph, since it will be a guilty secret among the brothers forever. Indeed, we see later in the Torah that the brothers become wracked with guilt and recrimination when they are confronted by the vizier of Egypt (the disguised Joseph), who seems omniscient in his penetrating questions and demands of them.

My father, z’tz'l, whose name also was Menachem Mendel, taught me a very simple lesson on the issue. "Don't ever say or do anything that you would not want on the front page of the newspaper."

There's no such thing as a secret.

Shabbat Shalom! Chag Urim Sameach!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim/Congregation Beth Meier
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, November 14, 2023

DISEASE OF THE HEART

Parashat Tol’dot
Kislev 5, 5784 / November 18, 2023
Torah Reading - Genesis 25:19 - 28:9
Haftarah: Malachi 1:1- 2:7
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This d'var torah is offered in honor of Lev Buchnik, who is celebrating becoming a bar mitzvah this Shabbat. Mazal Tov!

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Lynn's grandfather, Gabriel Stern, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, Kislev 10. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - his memory is a blessing.

This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. Because of the Thanksgiving holiday, we will not meet on November 21 or November 28. On Monday, December 4, we'll be at BT Shabbat 119a, page 190 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  "...רבי אבא זבן" - "R. Abba was accustomed to buy meat…”

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DISEASE OF THE HEART

“And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing that his father had blessed upon (Jacob); and Esau said in his heart, ‘The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then I will kill my brother Jacob.’” Genesis 27:41

Rabbi Jonathan Eybeschutz (17th century) teaches that when a rabbi tells a butcher that a particular animal was improperly slaughtered and therefore not kosher, the butcher accepts the ruling, even though it costs him money. But when two men bring a monetary dispute before a rabbi, the loser will be angry and argue with the rabbi. R. Eybeschutz says that in the case of the butcher, nobody benefits from the ruling, but in the case of the dispute, the winner is awarded money – he gains a benefit. The loser resents the fact of the winner winning more than he resents his loss.

As between Esau and Jacob, he says that Esau is not angry because he lost the blessing from his father, because Esau didn’t want it. He actually got what he wanted – “by your sword shall you live.” Rather, he hated Jacob because Jacob also received something of value from their father.


Isaac Blessing Jacob - Jusepe de Ribera (1591-1652)

This idea that we resent those who benefit more than we resent not benefitting is a difficult one to acknowledge, but it is all around us. We often see it in our political and “civil” discourse, couched in the language of racism or class warfare.

"Do not hate your fellow in your heart.” Leviticus 19:17. Failure to follow that simple rule can create a chasm that can never be bridged. Will we ever learn?

Happy Thanksgiving! Hodu l'Adonai ki tov; ki l'olam chasdo - Give thanks to the Lord Who is good, Whose lovingkindness is eternal. Psalm 136.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, November 7, 2023

GUESS WHO’S COMING TO DINNER!

Cheshvan 27, 5784 / November 10-11, 2023
Parashat Chayei Sarah
Torah: Genesis 23:1 - 25:18
Haftarah: 1 Kings 1:1-31
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Reb Jason is off this coming Shabbat evening - I have the honor and privilege of conducting our Friday Evening service, acappella, at 7:30 PM - Zoom/Facebook only - email me for the link if you don't already have it.
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Chaverim, if you would like to bring the Shekhinah (God's sheltering presence) into another person's life, please consider becoming an organ donor. This weekend is National Donor Sabbath, a project of the US Department of Health and Human Services. More information is available at the web site:
https://www.organdonor.gov/awareness/events/donor-sabbath.html  




Last year, about 40,000 organ transplants were performed in the US. This is impressive, until one realizes that there are about 120,000 Americans on the waiting lists for various organs. Every day, 80 transplants are performed in the US, while 20 people die waiting for organs they need to survive. You can alleviate the pain and suffering of others, literally give them life, merely by completing an organ donation card available from your motor vehicle department or at the web site above. I know a number of people who are alive today thanks to the organ transplants they received. And I knew people who are now dead because they did not receive the organ transplants they needed.
 
Does it work? Of course! Most of our parts are “recyclable”. And don’t forget, there are ways to save lives while we are still alive – through blood, plasma, platelet and bone marrow donations, and as living organ donors. Go ahead – perform an act of chesed (lovingkindness) or pikuach nefesh (saving a life) – and the Shekhinah will be with you and every organ recipient whose life you save.
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This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. On Monday, November 13, we'll be at BT Shabbat 118b, page 189 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  ".אמר רב נחמן תיתי לי דקיימית שלש סעודות בשבת"
"R. Nachman said: 'May it be credited to me, that I fulfilled the obligation of three meals on the Sabbath."' 
Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at:
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Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
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GUESS WHO’S COMING TO DINNER!

“And Isaac brought her into the tent of Sarah his mother; he married Rebecca, she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother.” Genesis 24:67

Rashi: He brought her to the tent, and behold, she was Sarah his mother! That is to say, she became like Sarah his mother. For as long as Sarah was alive, a candle burned from one Shabbat eve to the next, a blessing was found in the dough and a cloud was attached to the tent. When she died, these things ceased, and when Rebecca came, they resumed (citing Genesis Rabbah 60:16).

According to the Midrash, Sarah was the first to kindle Shabbat lights and to take challah (a symbolic offering) from dough and recite a blessing over it. In doing these things, she caused the Shekhinah (God's sheltering presence, symbolized by the cloud) to descend to her home. Isaac and Abraham either could not or would not do these things. It was Rebecca, the wife who replaced (became?) the mother, who reinstituted the practices, and brought about the return of the Shekhinah.

There are several ways to look at this. First is a rather obvious oedipal reference. Then is the implication that kindling lights for Shabbat and baking are gender specific jobs – women’s work. We could also derive the female viewpoint that men are clueless when it comes to certain matters. However, I am more interested in mystical cause and effect.

Simply by kindling Shabbat lights and reciting a blessing over the dough, Sarah and Rebecca (and any of us!) could bring God’s Sheltering Presence into the home. What’s the mystery? Take a couple of mundane acts, baking bread and lighting candles, infuse them and yourself with holiness through kavannah (focused intent) and by reciting the appropriate blessings (the hamotzi bessing can be inferred here as well), and you have instant Shalom Bayit, a peaceful household.
 
This Friday evening, perform the simple mitzvah of Shabbat candles; then look at the light, marvel at the Creation it symbolizes, and bring the Shekhinah home for dinner!
 
Shabbat Shalom Uv'rakhah! A Shabbat of Peace and Blessings

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus - Temple B'nai Hayim
.איזהו חכם? הלומד מכל אדם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, October 31, 2023

THE EXAMPLE(S) OF ABRAHAM

Parashat Vayera
Cheshvan 20, 5784 / November 3-4, 2023
Torah: Genesis 18:1 – 22:24
Haftarah: Ashkenazim - 2 Kings 4:1-37; Sephardim - 2 Kings 4:1-23
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the victims of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah. Y’hi zikhronam liv’rakhah – May their memories be a blessing. And may the memory of Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah and all their supporters be forever erased.
 
This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the terrorist attacks and in fighting against the terrorists, as well as innocent non-combatants caught in the crossfire.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Adrienne Beckmann, who passed away in Connecticut. We offer our deep condolences to John and his family. Y'hi zikhronah liv'rakhah - May her memory be a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina and Devorah bat Feigel.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. On Monday, November 6, we'll be at BT Shabbat 118b, page 189 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  ".אמר רב נחמן תיתי לי דקיימית שלש סעודות בשבת"
"R. Nachman said: 'May it be credited to me, that I fulfilled the obligation of three meals on the Sabbath."' 
Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at:
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Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
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THE EXAMPLE(S) OF ABRAHAM
 
"And the Lord appeared to (Abraham) at the terebinths (trees used to make turpentine) of Mamre while he was sitting at the entrance of the tent in the heat of the day. He lifted his eyes and saw there were three men standing above him; he ran from the entrance of the tent to greet them, and bowed toward the ground. And he said, 'My Lord, if I find favor in Your eyes, please do not pass away from Your servant.’” Genesis 18:1-3.

At first reading, one would think that God appeared to Abraham in the form of the three men. Therefore, he bowed and addressed them as "My Lord". 
However, a rabbinic tradition teaches that these are two separate events. God was visiting Abraham following Abraham's self-circumcision, and then the three men appeared. Abraham (in his pain!) literally ran from God to greet the men. He then asked God to wait while he attended to the needs of the men!

This might seem extraordinarily disrespectful to God. Not so, according to the Rabbis. "Rabbi Judah said in the name of Rav: 'Hospitality to guests is greater than greeting the Divine Presence.'" How can this be?


Abraham and the Three Angels (c. 1670-1674) by Bartolomé Esteban Murillo

For one thing, if God is the Omnipresent, one can never leave God's Presence. Second, if God is the Eternal, then "waiting" is not in God's vocabulary - it's simply not a problem. Perhaps most important, God does not have physical and emotional needs, but human beings do; and they must be attended to. In taking leave of God in order to extend hospitality to three strangers who appeared out of the desert, Abraham was actually honoring God - by truly caring for those who are created "in the image of God".
 
But there’s more that we can learn from Abraham in this parashah – some by following his example, some by not following his example.
 
"Will You also destroy the righteous with the wicked? ... Far be it from You to do so, to slay the righteous with the wicked, that the righteous should be equated with the wicked! Far be it from You! Shall the Chief Justice of all the earth not do justice?" (Gen. 18:23-25) Abraham's desperate bargaining with God to save Sodom and Gomorrah, and thereby the righteous few who might be dwelling there, is a truly powerful moment - a man standing up to God and telling Him to do the right thing. As noted last week, this is a shining example of speaking truth to power. And yet, it seems that nothing comes of it. God promises not to destroy the cities if ten righteous people can be found there, but ultimately the cities are destroyed – because there are not ten righteous persons. It is not because Abraham failed – and it is not because Abraham was wrong.
 
And yet … If Abraham is willing to argue to save people with whom he has absolutely nothing in common, why then, at the conclusion of our parashah, does he march his son Isaac up the mountain to be offered as a sacrifice to God, with nary a peep of protest? Some attribute to Abraham his desire to fulfill all of God's commandments. But perhaps the reason is quite different. (Note: he was earlier “troubled” by, but acquiesced to, the banishment of his son Ishmael)
 
Perhaps Abraham felt beaten down. Maybe he thought that his inability to convince God to relent from destroying the two cities meant that he should no longer argue with God, not ever, not even to save the life of his own son – who was completely innocent! He gave up!
 
This would truly be a failure on Abraham’s part. If so, then this behavior of Abraham is clearly NOT one we should follow. Consider this: how could it ever be wrong to seek justice for ourselves and for our fellow human beings? So what if we fail once? If we do not demand justice, why should God, or any person in authority, act justly? Are we not commanded to zealously pursue justice? (Deuteronomy 16:20) (see also my sermon from Rosh Hashanah Day 2 - https://rav-rich.blogspot.com/2023/09/this-is-my-sermon-for-second-day-of.html)
 
The proof is in the result. After the banishment of Ishmael and the near-sacrifice of Isaac, father and sons go their separate ways, and never see each other again – until the burial of Abraham. After Abraham’s failure to again demand justice, he and God go their separate ways, and never speak to each other again. We must not allow that to happen in our lives. The failure to seek justice for others may leave us all bereft of justice.
 
May the Merciful One bless us, all the inhabitants of the world, all of us, as one, with the blessing of peace.
 
Shabbat Shalom.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus - Temple B'nai Hayim
.איזהו חכם? הלומד מכל אדם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, October 24, 2023

THE NEW LAND - REVISITED

Parashat Lekh L’kha
Cheshvan 13, 5784 / October 27-28, 2023
Torah: Genesis 12:1 – 17:27
Haftarah: Isaiah 40:27 – 41:16
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This d’var torah is offered in memory of Yitzchak Rabin, whose yahrzeit is Wednesday, Cheshvan 11/October 25. Y’hi zikhrono liv’rakhah – May his memory be a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the dead Israelis and other residents in Israel, whether murdered by Hamas or in combat, and of the dead civilians in Gaza.
 
This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the Hamas terrorist attack and in fighting against terrorists.

This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina and Devorah bat Feigel.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. NO meeting on October 30. On Monday, November 6, we'll be at BT Shabbat 118b, page 189 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 –  "אמר רב נחמן תיתי לי דקיימית שלש סעודות בשבת"    
"R. Nachman said: 'May it be credited to me, that I fulfilled the obligation of three meals on the Sabbath."' 
Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at:
A pointed Hebrew text version with different pagination is available at Sefaria: 
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Rabbi Van Leeuwen has a blog which you should read at: 
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Dr. Steve Pearlman writes up the "Midrashim of the Week", which you should read at: 
https://midrashsrp.wordpress.com 
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Chaverim Yekarim / Dear Friends:
 
I originally published this d'var torah in October, 2015. There may be more than a few of you who think that I was naive to publish it then, and more so today. Even with the latest atrocities by Hamas, Islamic Jihad, and Hezbollah, and the rage that I am struggling to control, I stand by what I wrote then, for a simple reason. I truly believe that unless and until there is peace between the two nations living side-by-side in their own lands, they will consume each other, like the ouroboros of ancient mythology.


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THE NEW LAND

"And the Lord said to Abram, ‘Go forth from your land and your birthplace and your father’s house to the land that I will show you. And I will make you a great nation and I will bless you and I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing.’" Genesis 12:1-2

In his book "Genesis – Translation and Commentary", author and literary critic Robert Alter writes, "The name Canaan is never mentioned, and the divine imperative to head out for an unspecified place resembles, as Rashi observes, God’s terrible call to Abraham in chapter 22 to sacrifice his son on a mountain God will show him."  

Rashi: God did not immediately reveal the land to Abram, in order to make it beloved in his eyes, and to give him a reward for each and every word. Similarly, …. (at Genesis 22:2) "on one of the mountains that I will tell you about." 

This is how it is with Israel today in its search for peace. Israelis and Palestinians, all descendants of Abraham, are in the psychological "land" of their ancestors, a land we might name "conflict and terror". The "new land" of peace is seemingly distant, its exact parameters unknown. Yitzchak Rabin, z"l, a former general, a man of war, heard the call to go to that new land, and he sacrificed his life in answering that call. Five years later, Ehud Barak’s government fell because the Palestinians refused to heed the call.
 
Thousands of people have died because the call for peace has been drowned out by other calls for death and destruction. Israelis will have to give up the notion that they can indefinitely subjugate an occupied population that may soon outnumber them. Israelis will have to make other sacrifices in order to reach the new land. So will the Palestinians. They must give up their generations of hatred and the unrealistic, impossible goal of "return" within the present state of Israel. If the physical land is not divided between them, with each making the necessary political sacrifices, the psycho-spiritual land of peace will never be reached, and the physical sacrifices of their children will continue.
 
Only by going forward to the new land, together, will these peoples be truly blessed.

October 22, 2015
 
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Harachaman hu yivarekh otanu, kol yosh’vei teivel, kulanu, yachad b'virkat shalom.
May the Merciful One bless us, all the inhabitants of the world, all of us, as one, with the blessing of peace.
 
Rabbi Richard A. Flom - Rabbi Emeritus
Temple B'nai Hayim
http://rav-rich.blogspot.com/  
.אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם? הַלוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Tuesday, October 17, 2023

BUILDING AND DESTROYING

Parashat Noach
Cheshvan 6, 5784 / October 20-21, 2023
Torah: Genesis 6:9-11:32
Haftarah: Isaiah 54:1-55:5
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of all the dead Israelis and other residents in Israel, whether murdered by Hamas or in combat, and of the dead civilians in Gaza.
 
This d'var torah is offered in memory of my uncle, Merwin Erenbaum, whose yahrzeit falls on Monday, October 23, corresponding to 8 Cheshvan. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - May his memory be a blessing.
 
This d'var torah is offered in memory of my zayde, Sam Flom, whose yahrzeit falls on Tuesday, October 24, corresponding to 9 Cheshvan. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - May his memory be a blessing.
 
This d’var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for all who have been wounded in the Hamas terrorist attack and in fighting against terrorists.


This d'var torah is offered for a refuah shleimah for Chanah Bella bat Kreina and Devorah bat Feigel.
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We're continuing to read and discuss the Midrashic collection Ein Ya'akov. On Monday, October 23, we'll be at BT Shabbat 118b, page 189 of Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) Volume 1 – "R. Jose said: 'O that my lot fall among those who cause the resumption of study…'"
Ein Ya'akov (Glick edition) is available for on-line reading or as a downloadable PDF at:
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BUILDING AND DESTROYING
 
“And all your children shall be taught of the LORD; and great shall be the peace of your children. In righteousness shall you be established; be far from oppression, for you shall not fear, and from ruin, for it shall not come near you. Behold, they may gather together, but not by Me; whoever shall gather together against you shall fall because of you. Behold, I have created the smith that blows the fire of coals, and brings forth a weapon for his work; and I have created the destroyer (“mash’chit”) to lay waste. No weapon that is formed against you shall prosper; and every tongue that rises against you in judgment you shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their due reward from Me, says the LORD.” (Isaiah 54:13-17)
 
More than a few people will read these verses from this week’s haftarah and conclude that God will be with the State of Israel and help deliver victory in the struggle against Hamas and all the other monstrous terrorists seeking to destroy the state and its inhabitants. I hope and pray that is so. But there is a caveat within – Israel must establish itself “in righteousness”.
 
Nothing in these verses gives carte blanche for the wanton taking of innocent civilian lives. Israel is not the “destroyer” (the “mash’chit” – see also Exodus 12:23) that mindlessly kills all in its path. If the IDF’s principles of "tohar haneshek" (purity of arms) and "havlaga" (restraint) really mean something, then Israel must control the mash’chit that rages within so many hearts, trying to break out and destroy. Israel cannot debase itself in this way.
 
There is a Rabbinic teaching on verse 13 above. It’s found at BT Berakhot 64a:
 
R. Eleazar said in the name of R. Hanina: “The disciples of the wise increase peace in the world, as it says, ‘And all your children shall be taught of the LORD; and great shall be the peace of your children.’ (Isaiah 54:13) Read not banayikh [your children] the second time, but bonayikh [those who understand; or, your builders]. ‘Those who love your Torah will have great peace, and nothing makes them stumble.’ (Psalms 119:165) ‘May there be peace be within your walls and security within your gates. For the sake of my brethren and companions I say, May peace be within you. For the sake of the house of the Lord our God I will seek your good.’ (Psalms 122:7-9) ‘The Lord will give strength to His people; the Lord will bless His people with peace.’” (Psalms 29:11)
 
Last week, some days after the end of Sukkot, I finally took down my sukkah – and I remembered that it had taken me some time, over two hours of sweating in the hot sun, to erect the frame and walls. But it took less than 15 minutes to take it apart and store all the components. Building a sukkat shalom, a shelter of peace, takes much more time and effort than destroying one.
 
Shabbat Shalom.
 
Harachaman hu yivarekh otanu, kol yosh’vei teivel, kulanu, yachad b'virkat shalom.
May the Merciful One bless us, all the inhabitants of the world, all of us, as one, with the blessing of peace.
 
Rabbi Richard A. Flom - Rabbi Emeritus
Temple B'nai Hayim
http://rav-rich.blogspot.com/  
.אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם? הַלוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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PUTTING GOD SECOND

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