Thursday, March 19, 2026

DRAWING CLOSER - TO GOD, AND TO PEOPLE

Parashat Vayikra
Nisan 3, 5786 / March 20-21, 2026
Torah: Leviticus 1:1 - 5:26
Haftarah: Isaiah 43:21 – 44:23
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DRAWING CLOSER - TO GOD,  AND TO PEOPLE

“When a person from among you should offer (yakriv) an offering (korban) to the Lord ...” Leviticus 1:2

The word “korban” has an interesting etymology. The word is usually translated as “offering” or “sacrifice”. The book of Leviticus uses the word, or some variant of it, numerous times in this and succeeding parshiot, describing in graphic detail the various animal and grain sacrifices. The root of the word, and also of “yakriv”, is k-r-v, which means “to draw near”.

‘Rabbi Elazar said: “Doing deeds of charity is greater than all of the sacrificial offerings (korbanot).” …Our Rabbis taught: “Deeds of lovingkindness (gemilut chasadim) are greater than charity in three ways – charity is with money, for the poor, for the living - but deeds of lovingkindness are with direct personal contact, for rich and poor, for the living and the dead.”’ BT Sukkah 49b

Tzedakah Box


The rabbis wondered why the sacrificial rite should use this particular term. One classic explanation is that the smoke of the sacrifice rose up to God, and drew God near to the person making the offering.  Another explanation is that, by offering something of significant value, the person was bringing him/herself closer to God, a not-so-subtle difference. There were many types of sacrifices: atonement, freewill, thanksgiving, purification, and others. With the Temple destroyed and the sacrifices gone, we might ask how it is possible to draw close to God. And the answer is: through the performance of the mitzvot, the commandments. For Rabbi Elazar, the answer is a specific subset of the mitzvot – charity, aka tzedakah. For the Rabbis, it’s a different subset – gemilut chasadim.

I believe that Rabbi Elazar’s or the Rabbis’ answers are not sufficient as stated. Giving charity, or performing deeds of lovingkindness, do not inevitably make any spiritual connection for us, they don't by themselves substitute for the korbanot, even if fulfilling these commandments make us “feel good”.

Now consider this kavannah, a brief statement of intent, recited before donning tefillin: “For the sake of the unification of the Holy One Blessed is He, and His Presence ... Here I am, intending to fulfill the mitzvah of my Creator ...” The Kabbalists here teach that performing the mitzvah of tefillin brings us closer to God, and God closer to us, IF THAT IS OUR INTENT. I would go a step further. We ought to focus on bringing ourselves closer to God whenever we observe ANY mitzvah, and that includes tzedakah and gemilut chasadim. Maybe especially those, because they are done for the benefit of others, and not for ourselves.

Thus, every mitzvah is a “korban”, an offering that draws us closer to God, if we intend that it be so. There is a world of difference between lighting candles for atmosphere and intending that act to bring on Shabbat and bring us closer to God. And there is a significant difference between acting mindlessly by rote alone and by intending that one truly bring God into one’s life through a mitzvah. Especially when the mitzvah brings us and others together. But that is a sacrifice that should be easy to make.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus - Temple B'nai Hayim
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1 
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Thursday, March 12, 2026

SERVICE OF THE HEART

Adar 25, 5786 / March 13-14, 2026
Parashat Vayak’hel/Pekudei - Shabbat HaChodesh
Torah: Exodus 35:1 – 40:38
Maftir (HaChodesh): Exodus 12:1-20
Haftarah (HaChodesh): Ezekiel 45:16 – 46:18

This d’var torah is offered in memory of my father-in-law, Abraham Kronzek, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, Nisan 1/March 19. Y’hi zikhro liv’rakhah – his memory is a blessing.
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SERVICE OF THE HEART

"Take from among you gifts to the Lord; everyone whose heart so moves him shall bring them ... Every man and woman whose heart moved them to bring anything for the work that the Lord had commanded to be done, through Moses; the Israelites brought free will offerings to the Lord." Exodus 35:5; 35:29

The Ark in the Tabernacle (1984 illustration by Jim Padgett, courtesy of Distant Shores Media/Sweet Publishing)

The free-will gifts mentioned here relate to the construction of the tabernacle and the ritual objects and vestments utilized by the Israelite priests. With no more Temple in Jerusalem, we have found different ways to make holy gifts, in the form of tzedakah (charity) and gemilut chasadim (deeds of lovingkindness). For Purim, we have Mishlo’ach Manot (sending gifts of food) and Matanot L’evyonim (gifts of food or money to the poor). For Pesach we have Ma’ot Chittin (tzedakah specifically so the poor can observe the festival). We also have the commandments to leave the corners of our fields and gleaning of fields, vineyards, and olive groves for the poor. Although these are mitzvot, acts which are commanded, we must admit that we give more and we do more when our hearts are moved to do so.

We have been told by our Rabbis that the Temple was destroyed because of sin'at chinam, senseless hatred, and that we will be redeemed through ahavat chinam, senseless love of our fellow human beings.

Observance of the mitzvot may be seen as a form of worship – just as our prayer services are. Perhaps our path to redemption, for ourselves, for our communities, and for our world, is for our hearts to be constantly moved with love of these mitzvot and of those who benefit from them, so that we continually engage in Avodat HaLev - the service of the heart.

Our society too often appears to be engaged in a struggle between love and hate, between caring for each other and treating people like they were disposable. Yes, Pesach is coming in less than three weeks – but members of our community are in need NOW!

God promises us through Ezekiel (36:26 – the haftarah we read last week for Shabbat Parah), "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit into you; I will remove the heart of stone from your body and give you a heart of flesh."

Don’t wait for God’s heart transplant! Don't wait until your heart moves you! Move your heart! Do it today!

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus - Temple B'nai Hayim
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1 
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Wednesday, March 11, 2026

PESACH RESOURCES – 5786 (UPATED MARCH 16, 2026)

 PESACH RESOURCES – 5786 (UPATED MARCH 16, 2026) 
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Chaverim yekarim - Dear friends:
 
Well, it’s almost time for Pesach! You know, the “Festival of Freedom”, the holiday on which we celebrate our release from slavery to Pharaoh in Egypt by abiding by the very strict dietary and ritual rules created by the Rabbis and Jewish Tradition, including eating the hardtack called matzah for eight days. Freedom, you say? God said, “Send forth My people, so they may serve me.” That’s how it is typically translated. But the Hebrew word for “so they may serve me”, “v’ya’avduni”, might easily be translated as “so they will slave for Me”. The root for “serve”, “avad”, is also the root for “eved” – “slave”. So, how do you manage Pesach in such a way as to avoid complete slavery?
 
Here are some simple rules:
1. Accept that you are not perfect – and neither is anyone else! You don’t have to do it all! You can’t do it all!
2. Prepare the house by cleaning and removing the chametz. A short but very useful guide to kashering your kitchen and home and identifying foods that are or are not kosher for Passover 5786/2026 can be found at: 
3. Prepare the food for the Seder.
4. Prepare the food for the remainder of the holiday by shopping for it before Pesach.
5. Prepare yourself and your family spiritually.
6. Prepare yourself and your family intellectually.
7. Do not drive yourself or anyone else crazy – see number rule #1.
8. Remember that Pesach really is about freedom; freedom is fun; have fun! See rule #7.
9. Any questions? Ask a rabbi!

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Seder Plate with Orange





Shmurah Matzah


Are you looking for ways to make your Seder more meaningful, more accessible, more involving for children, more interesting, shorter, etc.? Then check out these resources on-line:
 
a. The Rabbinical Assembly’s Pesach Guide 5786 can be downloaded at the following site: 


b. Additional Pesach kashrut and other resources from the Rabbinical Assembly may be found at: 


c. Pesach kitchen kashering from a strictly Orthodox perspective can be found at:
 
https://artscroll.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/kosher-kitchen_ch-15.pdf
 
d. MyJewishLearning.com is, IMVHO, the best Jewish educational resource on the web, and has material on virtually everything you might ever want to know about Judaism, but don't know how or whom to ask. The homepage is easily navigable. For Pesach, explore this page, with its 33(!) additional pages of links (!), 10-15 per page, over 350 links in all, to all kinds of information and resources - 
recipes, planning tips, DIY Haggadot, customs of different communities, and just about anything you might want to know about Pesach:


e. Passover according to Chabad in a straightforward manner. Lots of useful material. Follow the various links on this page:

f. Especially good for beginners, National Jewish Outreach Program’s extensive and accessible collection of how-tos, background materials and videos, from the folks who bring you Shabbat Across America (also has Shabbat and other holiday resources):
 
https://njop.org/passover/passover-seder-101-web-series/

g. How about a downloadable Haggadah? Check these out:


PJ Library has lots of accessible educational Jewish books and and other materials for free. This haggadah seems really long, but it's in big print with lots of illustrations.

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It might not be "the best", but this printable PDF covers all the halakhic basics in about 8-10 pages. I would definitely use this for a short but meaningful Seder if pressed for time (school night, hungry little ones, etc,)

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Some of the very nice things about this Chabad Haggadah - it's a printable PDF file; it has lots of explanations of the hows and whys of the seder; and, it has a modern, accessible, non-literal translation. One drawback - it's 114 pages long, including introductory material and appendices. You can print only the pages you want.

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Sefaria is a one-stop source for thousands of Jewish texts and teaching/study materials.

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Barebones, no explanation, but has transliterations for the bulk of the haggadah.

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6. Last, but not least, everyone's favorite:


Yep, that's right, a scanned version of the complete Maxwell House Haggadah. Ah, the memories ...

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NOTE: A Google search for "free downloadable haggadah" or "haggadah online" will lead to some useful and many not-so-useful resources. If you go this route, be sure they are legitimate and not come-ons from Christian missionary groups.
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h. Another very nice on-line resource is excellent, and includes material in Spanish and French (Be sure to follow all the internal links):


Exploring Judaism is a project of Conservative/Masorti Judaism.

i. Courtesy of the Rabbinical Assembly, a useful source sheet with discussion questions that is appropriate for group study or around the seder table can be found here:

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One of my seminary teachers suggested that, in addition to whichever Haggadah of choice you use for your Seder, you should every year acquire a new Haggadah with commentary and illustrations to help you prepare and make your Seder more enjoyable. Ask your local Jewish bookseller, consult with a rabbi, explore the web – there are beautiful and accessible Haggadot available. My Jewish Learning has a nice article about choosing a Haggadah for your seder here:  https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/how-is-this-haggadah-different/ 

Here are some of my favorites for getting ready:

 
1. Passover Haggadah – The Feast of Freedom. The Rabbinical Assembly, 1982. Clear spiritual commentary. 



 
2. A Passover Haggadah – Go Forth and Learn. Rabbi David Silver. Jewish Publication Society, 2011. A new classic.
 
3. The Haggadah Treasury. Rabbi Nosson Scherman. Artscroll, 1978. Midrash and traditional teachings.
 
4. From Bondage to Freedom – The Passover Haggadah. Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. Shaar Press, 1995. Tradition blended with insights relating to addiction and dependency.
 
5. A Different Night – The Family Participation Haggadah. Noam Zion and David Dishon. Shalom Hartman Institute, 1997. Difficult to use at the seder, but lots of great ideas - especially in the leader's guide.
 
6. Studies on the Haggadah from the Teachings of Nechama Leibowitz. Urim Publications, 2002. Deep Torah from a great scholar.
 
7. The Hirsch Haggadah. Samson Raphael Hirsch. Feldheim Publishers, 1993. The 19th century voice of Orthodoxy.
 
8. A Feast of History. Chaim Raphael. Steimatzky’s, 1972. (Out of print but available used) The lengthy historical essay is interesting and useful.
 
9. The Origins of the Seder. Baruch Bokser. JTS Press, 2002 (Paperback edition). Not a Haggadah, but for those interested in an academic treatise that opens the eyes to history.
 
10. Passover – The Family Guide to Spiritual Celebration. Dr. Ron Wolfson. Jewish Lights Publishing, 2010 (2d edition) A straight-forward how-to guide with explanations and insights for the table.
 
Some other important reminders about Pesach and the lead-up to the holy days:
 
1. All first-borns (except Levi’im and Kohanim) are obliged to engage in a fast, called Ta’anit B’chorot, others say Ta'anit B'chorim
in recognition of the 10th plague, from pre-dawn until the seder on the 14th of Nisan - this year on Wednesday, April 1. To avoid the fast, the custom has become for the firstborn to engage in Torah study and then have a festive "meal" (a siyyum) at the completion of their study. Temple B'nai Hayim and Adat Ari El will hold in-person (Deiber Chapel) and on-line morning minyan, Torah study and siyyum on April 1, at 7:30 am. Zoom details will be in the synagogue e-mail notices.
 
2. Adat Ari El is is holding ain-person Community First Seder this year, Wednesday, April 1, at 6:00 pm. RSVP at:


Temple B'nai Hayim is holding ain-person Community Second Seder this year, Thursday, April 2, at 6:30 pm. This seder will be at Adat Ari El - Russell Hall. RSVP at: https://tinyurl.com/TBHSecondSeder 

For more information on the TBH Community Second Seder, contact the synagogue at (818) 788-4664 or office@bethmeier.org  

For more information on the AAE Community First Seder, contact the synagogue at (818) 766-9426 

3.  DON’T FORGET TO REMOVE AND SELL CHAMETZ!! – AUTHORIZE RABBI VAN LEEUWEN TO SELL ON YOUR BEHALF NO LATER THAN 3:00 pm, March 25, 2026.

A fillable on-line form is available here: https://tinyurl.com/TBHChametzSale  
 
4. Kitniyot (beans, rice, corn) on Pesach? Yes! Read the latest from the Rabbinical Assembly at:
 
http://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/2011-2020/Levin-Reisner-Kitniyot.pdf 

I guess it's time to start thinking about Pesach!
 
Wishing you a Chag Pesach Sameach, Kasher U’Mashma’uti – A Passover that is Happy, Kosher and Meaningful!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom, DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1

Wednesday, March 4, 2026

SOMETHING OF VALUE

Adar 18, 5786 / March 6-7, 2026
Parashat Ki Tisa (Shabbat Parah)
Torah: Exodus 30:11 - 34:35
Maftir: Numbers 19:1-22
Haftarah: Ezekiel 36:16-38 (Ashkenazim; Sephardim read 36:16-36)
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SOMETHING OF VALUE

“And the people broke off the golden earrings that were in their ears - and brought them to Aaron.” Exodus 32:3

“And the Lord repented of the evil that He had thought to do to His people.” 32:14

Rabbi Eizel of Slonim on verse 3: “Truly this was a great sin committed by Israel in making the golden calf. For all that, we must admit that that generation was better than our own. The members of that generation were willing to cast away their silver and gold in order to make gods for themselves; but today, in our great iniquity, we think it permissible to cast away God solely for wealth and happiness.”


The Adoration of the Golden Calf - Nicolas Poussin, ca. 1633-34

Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Kotzk on verse 14: “Why did He forgive the sin of the golden calf even though the people did not repent, while He did not forgive the sin of the spies even though the people did repent? The sin of the calf had at least a spark of holiness, a thirst for the Divine. But the sin of the spies was all about a better material life.”

These are fascinating comments. Our teachers boldly imply that even mistaken worship of false gods is better than denying divinity and holiness altogether. It is not that money and happiness are innately sinful. Certainly not true happiness! Greed and narcissism are the true enemies of the Good Life - i.e., a life of goodness. The evil arises from giving up on any sense of holiness in order to pursue only worldliness.

Shabbat Shalom U’Mevorakh - A Peaceful and Blessed Shabbat!

Rabbi Richard Flom, DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus - Temple B'nai Hayim
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent."
BT Yevamot 87b
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Wednesday, February 25, 2026

REMEMBER?

Adar 11, 5786 / February 27-28, 2026
Parashat Tetzaveh (Shabbat Zakhor)
Torah Reading: Exodus 27:20 - 30:10
Maftir (Shabbat Zakhor): Deuteronomy 25:17-19
Haftarah (Shabbat Zakhor): 1 Samuel 15:1-34
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REMEMBER?

This Shabbat is known as Shabbat Zakhor (Remember) because of the first word of the Maftir, the additional Torah reading, which instructs us to remember what Amalek did to our ancestors on the way out of Egypt. This serves as a connection to the observance of Purim, Monday night and Tuesday, when we commemorate the defeat of Haman, a descendant of Amalek. However, I want to focus on a different kind of remembering, mentioned in the weekly portion for this Shabbat.

"And you shall put the two stones upon the shoulder pieces of the ephod, stones of remembrance for the Children of Israel; and Aaron shall bear their names before the Lord upon his two shoulders for a remembrance... And Aaron shall bear the names of the Children of Israel in the breastplate of judgment over his heart, when he goes into the holy place, for a remembrance before the Lord perpetually." Exodus 28:12, 29

"For a remembrance - that the Holy One Blessed Be He should see the tribes written before Him and remember their righteousness." (tzidkatam – their righteousness) Rashi to verse 12, citing Midrash Exodus Rabbah

"Memory is the source of redemption; forgetting leads to oblivion." Baal Shem Tov to verse 29.

The names of the tribes were engraved on the stones as a reminder - to whom? Rashi teaches that God needs to be reminded of the righteousness of our ancestors. Perhaps it is to remind God of our (inherent?) righteousness (
as if!); we also are the Children of Israel. Does God really need to be reminded of anything - as if God could forget! Yet many of the prayers which we regularly offer do just that.

I understand the Baal Shem Tov, the founder of Chasidism, as saying "no!" We are the ones who need to remember. That's why his words are at the entrance to Yad Vashem. If we believe we are righteous, we need to remember that we once were not. If we are not righteous, we must remember that we can become so - if we try. Remembering takes on redeeming qualities, because it can compel us to perform acts of righteousness. So it is imperative to remember what you once were; to be reminded of what you have the potential to become; and to do something about it, by performing acts of tzedek and tzedakah, of justice and of righteousness.

Have a wonderful Shabbat! Purim Sameach! Barukh Mordechai; Arur Haman! 

HaRav HaGaon HaTzaddik Abba Reuven Ben Menachem Mendel Flom, Sh’lita
Der Heileger Rebbe of Sherman Oaks - Emeritus
Rosh Yeshivah – Lower Slobbovia Bartender Academy
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משנכנס אדר, מרבין בשמחה
From the beginning of Adar, we increase joy.
BT Ta’anit 29a
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Thursday, February 19, 2026

FEEL THE LOVE!

Parashat T'rumah
Exodus 25:1 - 27:19
Haftarah: 1 Kings 5:26 - 6:13
Adar 4, 5786 / February 20-21, 2026
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of my aunt, Mildred Flom, whose yahrzeit falls on Friday, February 20 / Adar 3. Y'hi zekherah liv'rakhah - May her memory be a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Leonard Foint, whose yahrzeit falls on Friday, February 20 / Adar 3. Y'hi zikhro liv'rakhah - May his memory be a blessing.
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FEEL THE LOVE!
 
"And this is the offering you will take from them: gold and silver and brass."  Exodus 25:3
 
The Dubner Maggid taught: "God did not ask for these things in the sanctuary because He loves gold, Heaven forbid, but because they are precious to humans.  When a person donates something that he loves to God, it is as if he is giving his love to God....   It would have been proper to command that each person give God his love, but how can one take something spiritual, namely one's love, which is deep in the heart?  Therefore God commanded that He be given something material, and the love is given along with the object."

Replica of the menorah

I see in the Maggid's teaching an interesting interpretation of the Sh'ma (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).  There, we are told to love God with all the heart, along with all the soul and all the might.  Some Jewish traditions teach that "heart, soul and might" are metaphors for greed, intellect and possessions. By acquiring property through greed, whether in-born or learned, coming to understand through study what God really wants from us, and then giving away our acquisitions to that higher purpose, we do indeed give all our love to God. 

And what is that higher purpose? Since the destruction of the Temple nearly 2,000 years ago, how do we show our love for God? Simple! We give tzedakah - to people in need - the very images of God to whom we are to show and share our love.
 
Feel the love - and then spread it around!

Have a Shabbat of joy and gladness - it's Adar!
 
HaRav HaGa’on Abba Reuven ben Menachem Mendel Flom, Sh’lita
Av Beis Din – Chelm
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משנכנס אדר, מרבין בשמחה
From the beginning of Adar, we increase joy.
BT Ta’anit 29a
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Thursday, February 12, 2026

YOUR FEELINGS ARE NOT NECESSARILY YOUR OWN!

Adar 27, 5786 / February 13-14, 2026
Parashat Mishpatim (Shabbat Shekalim)
Torah: Exodus 21:1 - 24:18
Maftir: Exodus 30:11-16 (Shabbat Shekalim)
Haftarah (Shabbat Shekalim): 2 Kings 12:1-17 (Ashkenazim); 2 Kings 11:17 – 12:17 (Sephardim)
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This d’var torah is offered in honor of my sister and brother-in-law, Lorrie Flom and Jay Goodman, on the occasion of their wedding anniversary this Shabbat, February 14. Happy Anniversary! Mazal tov!
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".... ,כי מטא לאבדולי" - "When it was time for havdalah, ..."
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Monday, February 16, is Presidents Day - don't forget to fly Old Glory!
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YOUR FEELINGS ARE NOT NECESSARILY YOUR OWN!

"And you shall not mistreat a stranger (ger, which can also mean a foreigner or a convert), nor shall you oppress him, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt." Exodus 22:20

“You shall not oppress a stranger, for you know the heart of a stranger, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” Exodus 23:9

The Alter of Slabodka (Rabbi Nosson Tzvi Finkel, founder of the Slabodka Yeshiva (b. Lithuania 1849 – d. Jerusalem 1927), teaches the following on Exodus 23:9:

"Please do not explain this according to the simple meaning, that we are not permitted to oppress a stranger because we, too, had been strangers and had been oppressed, and thus know the taste of oppression. Rather, the reason is that a person is required to feel and participate in the joy and distress of his fellow, as if these had affected him personally. (my emphasis) "You shall love your neighbor as yourself" (Leviticus 19:18) - exactly as yourself. A person's relationship to others is not complete unless he feels their joys and sorrows with them, without any differentiation." (from Itturei Torah)


"Cities of Refuge" (Providence Lithograph Company, 1901)

It seems like nothing is ever simple with rabbis! For the Alter of Slabodka, merely not oppressing the Other is not enough! Yes, we Jews know oppression - but we need to have the greatest empathy for the Other, for the oppressed, in their joy, in their sorrow, and, I would suggest, in their day to day lives. This, he believes, is the only way to have a completely loving relationship with another. 
 
This is a tough, some might say impossible order to follow. But consider how this deep, deep sharing/experiencing of emotions with the Other will create within us and within them the Truth - that they are indeed "exactly as yourself". 

Shabbat Shalom!
 
Rabbi Richard A. Flom, DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus
Temple B'nai Hayim
!משנכנס אדר, מרבין בשמחה
With the beginning of Adar, we increase joy! (BT Ta'anit 29a)
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Friday, February 6, 2026

SAME AS IT EVER WAS

Parashat Yitro

Torah Reading: Exodus 18:1 - 20:23 (some chumashim use different verse numberings)
Haftarah Reading: Isaiah 6:1 - 7:6, 9:5-6 (Ashkenazim); Isaiah 6:1-13 (Sephardim)
Shevat 20, 5786 / February 6-7, 2026
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of my aunt, Shirley Schack, whose yahrzeit falls on Thursday, Shevat 25/February 12. Y'hi zekherah liv'rakhah - Her memory is a blessing.
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"... תנו רבנן בני חבורה שהיו מסובין" - "The Sages taught: members of a group who were reclining ..."
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SAME AS IT EVER WAS

"In the third month, when the Children of Israel had gone forth out of the land of Egypt, the same day they came to the wilderness of Sinai." Exodus 19:1

Rashi: "What is the meaning of 'the same day'? That the words of the Torah should be as fresh to you as if they had been given today."

We learn in the Zohar that when reciting Shirat Hayam (the Song at the Sea), which is read from the Torah on Parashat Beshalach (we read it last week) and on the seventh day of Passover, and in the siddur every morning, that we should rise and sing it with great joy, as if we ourselves were standing at the shore, witnessing the great miracle. Similarly, when Aseret Hadibrot (The Ten Statements [aka Commandments]) are read from the Torah, as we will be doing this Shabbat, we rise and listen with great intensity, as if standing at the foot of Mt. Sinai, hearing them for the very first time.

This is explained in Miginzeinu Ha'atik (“From Our Ancient Genizahs”, quoted in Itturei Torah). "You should not say that the Torah was given in the wilderness nearly 3,000 years ago, and it was only appropriate for that time and the conditions which existed then - 'The same day' - as if they had been given today - the laws of the Torah and our traditions are eternal, and they are relevant in every place and at every time."


This idea that they might be irrelevant is often applied to any number of Torah laws, such as kashruth, Shabbat, and tefillin. And yet, one never hears anyone say that "honor your father and mother" or "you shall not murder" have gone out of fashion. Not to mention loving and caring for the stranger, which appears at least 36 times in the Torah. (Although, to be honest, in some quarters, even those commandments seem to be regarded as optional.) Why is that?  The discussion often turns on notions of personal freedom, the needs of society, and the desire not to stand out - and sometimes, sheer cruelty.

I would suggest that the whole of Jewish law and tradition is a complete, unitary system, subject to debate and changes in circumstances (like the destruction of the Temple), but never irrelevancy. God gives the Torah to the Jews for a very specific reason - "You shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation." (Exodus 19:6) We Jews are here, and we receive the Torah, specifically to minister to the world by acting in accordance with its teachings, and to sanctify ourselves and others through that ministry.

Stand up at Sinai! The Torah, which is your blueprint and your job description, is being given, and it hasn't changed!

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom, DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus
Temple B'nai Hayim
"שתיקה כהודאה דמיא"
"Silence in the face of wrongdoing is consent"
BT Yevamot 87b
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DRAWING CLOSER - TO GOD, AND TO PEOPLE

Parashat Vayikra Nisan 3, 5786 / March 20-21, 2026 Torah: Leviticus 1:1 - 5:26 Haftarah: Isaiah 43:21 – 44:23 ------------------------------...