Monday, July 27, 2020

TO REMEMBER OR TO OBSERVE?

Parashat Va’etchanan – Shabbat Nachamu
Av 11, 5780 / July 31 – August 1, 2020
Torah: Deuteronomy 3:23-7:11
Haftarah: Isaiah 40:1-26 (First Haftarah of Comfort)

This Shabbat is known as Shabbat Nachamu, the Shabbat of Comfort, for the words of God and the prophet following Tisha B'Av (9 Av).

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Martha Gottschalk Stern (Lynn's grandmother), whose yahrzeit falls on Sunday, August 2 (12 Av). Y’hi zekherah liv’rakhah – Her memory is a blessing.

Candlelighting for Friday, August 31: 7:36 PM PDT

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TO REMEMBER OR TO OBSERVE?

"Observe the Sabbath day, to keep it holy, as the Lord your God commanded you." Deuteronomy 5:12

Rashi (quoting the Mekhilta d’Rebbi Yishmael): “At the first (i.e., Exodus 20:8), it says, "remember" (the Sabbath). Both were said in one statement and in one word, and they were heard simultaneously.”

According to the Midrash, Moses does not have a faulty memory. Since Moses cannot say two words at one time, the Torah uses "remember" in one place, and "observe" in the other. I have been taught that they are actually two separate commandments. One can perform one of these commandments without performing the other.

How is it possible to observe Shabbat without remembering it? Performance of mitzvot requires kavannah, the proper intent. If one carries out all of the rituals of Shabbat, does no work, and so forth, without reflecting on why one does so, without actually intending to do so, one has observed without remembering, and the observance is, in a way, incomplete. How is it possible to remember without observing? One might say to oneself, "It is Shabbat, and I will light the candles." But for some reason or other, one does not perform other Shabbat rituals, or one performs work, and so forth. One has surely remembered, but has not fully observed Shabbat.

I would suggest that remembering is more important than observing. This is because remembering can lead to observing (as it has in my own life), and one may thereby perform both of these commandments. But mechanical observance tends to turn into empty ritual – which is meaningless - and leads to forgetfulness, and thus the non-performance of both commandments. Perhaps in this context, we would do well to refer to the teaching of the Baal Shem Tov - "Memory is the source of redemption; forgetting leads to exile."

Even if you are not yet prepared to fully observe Shabbat, for your own sake, for the sake of your children, for the sake of the Jewish people, remember Shabbat.

Shabbat Shalom.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Monday, July 20, 2020

BEARING AND SHARING THE BURDEN

Parashat Devarim
Torah: Deuteronomy 1:1 – 3:22
Haftarah: Isaiah 1:1-27 (Shabbat Chazon – Shabbat of Vision)
4 Av, 5780 / July 24, 2020
Tisha B’Av reading: Megillat Eichah – The Book of Lamentations

This Shabbat is Shabbat Chazon, the Shabbat of Vision, so-called because we read on Shabbat morning the rebuking vision of Isaiah, leading into the observance of Tisha B’Av on Wednesday night and Thursday, July 29-30, and the reading of the horrifying vision of the Book of Lamentations (Megillat Eichah). Tisha B'Av, the Ninth of Av, commemorates the destruction of the First and Second Temples in Jerusalem, and numerous other calamities which have befallen the Jewish people on the same date. Please join us on line via Zoom or Facebook Live for a community program of service, reading of Lamentations, study and discussion on Wednesday, July 29, at 8:00 pm. Links and study offerings will be posted later this week. Have a meaningful fast.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of Sarah Labovitz Flom (my grandmother) and Martha Gottschalk Stern (Lynn's grandmother), whose yahrzeits fall Friday, July 31 (10 Av), and Sunday, August 2 (12 Av), respectively. Both were US immigrants and asylum seekers, escaping anti-semitic persecution from Romania (1902) and from Nazi Germany (1937 via France 1934).

Candle lighting: 7:41 pm
Tisha B’Av begins Wednesday, July 29, at 7:55 pm.

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BEARING AND SHARING THE BURDEN

"How (eikhah in Hebrew) can I alone bear your vexation and your burden and your strife?" Deuteronomy 1:12

Rashi: "Even if I were to say that I will do so in order to receive a reward, I may not do so."

Rashi offers the traditional Jewish take on the limits of personal responsibility. One is actually forbidden to voluntarily take on a burden that might be greater than one can bear, even (especially?) if one does so in order to receive a reward from God and/or the community. One may not voluntarily injure oneself (except to save a life); also, too much responsibility assumed by one person can actually do damage to the community.

But what happens when one refuses to accept any share of the burden for communal needs? R. Yosef Yozl Horowitz takes Rashi's comment and stands it on its head. He says, "Traditionally, this verse is read to the melody of Lamentations (Megillat Eikhah, from the first word of Lamentations), to teach us that if a person refuses to assume the responsibility for community needs, and thinks that by doing so he makes things easier for himself, he will in the end find out that matters will be worse for him, and he will remain alone and isolated. How (eikhah) does one dwell alone?" (From Itturei Torah)  As John Donne said: “No man is an island entire of itself.”

We are forbidden to take on so much responsibility that we become a burden on the community. On the other hand, we are forbidden to neglect our obligations to the community. These two teachings together offer a great insight, summed up by Rabbi Tarfon: "You are not obligated to finish the task, neither are you free to neglect it." Avot 2:21 If we share the burden, it's easier to bear. That's community spirit!

Shabbat Shalom! And have a meaningful fast.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Monday, July 13, 2020

KOSHER WORDS, KOSHER THINGS



Tammuz 26, 5780 / July 17-18, 2020
Parashat Mattot - Mas'ei
Torah: Numbers 30:2 - 32:42 (Chazak!)
Haftarah: (Ashkenazim) Jeremiah 2:4-28; 3:4. (Sephardim) Jeremiah 2:4-28; 4:1-2

Candle lighting: 7:45 pm

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KOSHER WORDS, KOSHER THINGS

"If a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath prohibiting something to himself, he shall not profane his word; all that has come from his mouth he must do." Numbers 30:3

”Any articles that can withstand fire, you shall pass through the fire, and they shall be pure, except that they shall be purified with the water of sprinkling (water imbued with red heifer ashes); and that which cannot withstand fire you shall pass through the water." Numbers 31:23

Vows and oaths have extraordinary power - they can turn ordinary objects into things of holiness or prohibition. "I hereby vow to donate this silver cup to the synagogue"; "By my oath, I will not eat meat for six months" - these words have transformative effect over mundane things. This is why Jewish tradition frowns on the recitation of vows and oaths.

Changing the (ritual) nature of objects is accomplished either by words, according to the first verse, or by kashering, making them fit to use, as stated in the later verse. What about the converse? What happens if you profane your word?

If an object is kosher, and is used only for kosher purposes, it remains kosher. If it is defiled, it requires an elaborate process of kashering. Similarly, if you want to retract a vow, the rabbis devised a ritual for doing so. If you have already violated your word, you must do teshuvah - the steps of repentance. Just as it is far easier to maintain the kashrut of an object by not defiling it, so is it easier to maintain the purity of our words by fulfilling them (or not uttering them in the first place!).

So perhaps it is not coincidental that the Hebrew word for "things" and the Hebrew word for "words" is the same word - "devarim". Our words have meaning and power that are tangible. Be a person of your word.

Peace and blessings. Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Monday, July 6, 2020

SPEAKING TRUTH TO POWER

Parashat Pinchas
Tammuz 19, 5780 - July 10-11, 2020
Torah: Numbers 25:10 - 30:1
Haftarah: Jeremiah 1:1 - 2:3 (First Haftarah of Rebuke)

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Candle lighting: 7:48 pm

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SPEAKING TRUTH TO POWER - WITH THE POWER OF KNOWLEDGE

"The daughters of Tzeloph'chad speak right; you shall surely give them a hereditary portion among their father's kin; you shall transfer their father's share to them." Numbers  27:7

Tzeloph'chad died leaving no sons - only daughters. The law at the time was that females had no hereditary rights. The daughters challenge this, and God delivers a new law to Moses and the people, acknowledging the justice of their claim. A later stipulation is that while women may inherit land from their fathers, they must marry within their own clan, to keep the land within the clan's control.

Later, the Rabbis ruled that widows and unmarried daughters are entitled to financial support by the deceased's estate, even when they do not inherit because there is a surviving son. The Rema (Rabbi Moshe Isserles) ruled in the Shulchan Arukh that fathers may leave an inheritance for their daughters, even when there is a surviving son. And the chief rabbinate of the land of Israel ruled in 1943 under a takkanah (a reparative enactment) that in Israel , daughters inherit equally with sons.

It all sounds primitive. Today we accept the notion of women's equality in inheritance, and in most, if not all aspects of our lives, as a given. But this was a sea change brought about by Tzeloph’chad’s daughters, and tells us much about Judaism and women, law and justice. Jewish women spoke up and demanded that a wrong be righted - and they got it! More broadly, Jewish law has a methodology for adjusting to changed circumstances and addressing injustice. 

The Midrash says that Tzeloph'chad's daughters were learned in Torah, and that is how they were able to bolster their arguments for change in the law. If that is so, then it suggests that knowledge is an important weapon to wield in demanding justice from the power structure of society.

The Torah is your birthright. Learn it, and feel the power within!

Shabbat Shalom.

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Thursday, July 2, 2020

TAKE NOTE

Parashat Chukkat-Balak
Tammuz 12, 5780 / July 3-4, 2020
Torah: Numbers 19:1 - 25:9
Haftarah: Micah 5:6 - 6:8

Candle lighting: 7:50 pm

Don’t forget to fly your flag on both Friday, July 3 (government and bank holiday observance) and Saturday, July 4 – the real celebration!




This d'var torah is offered in memory of my mother-in-law, Lynn's mother and Robert's grandmother, Helena Kronzek, whose yahrzeit falls on Tammuz 16 - Tuesday/Wednesday July 7-8. Y'hi zikhronah liv'rakhah - May her memory be a blessing.

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TAKE NOTE

"The Kohen will take cedar wood, hyssop and crimson thread, and throw them into the burning of the cow." Numbers 19:6

From the description of the inexplicable ritual of the Red Heifer, Rabbi Simchah Bunim of Pshischa teaches: The cedar alludes to haughtiness, while the hyssop implies humility. Every person must have a note in one pocket which says, "I am but dust and ashes" (Genesis 18:27), and in the other pocket one must have a note which says, "For my sake was the world created" (Sanhedrin 37). The wise person knows when to use which.

Yechiel of Aleksander (1828–1894) explains that when the Yetzer Hara, the Evil Impulse, wishes to build us up, in order to make us arrogant and self-centered, we should read the first note. When the Evil Impulse wants to bring us down in sadness and depression over our failures, we should read the second note.

But what about the crimson thread? Perhaps we should tie one around a finger, to serve as a reminder that the notes are in our pockets. The thread has a unique characteristic - unlike the cedar and the hyssop, the crimson thread was created by human beings. This means we have power - the power to resist arrogance and to overcome despair, the power to improve, the power to control our own destinies - as long as we are mindful of what those destinies might be.

Put two notes in your pocket, and declare your independence from Yetzer Hara - the Evil Inclination.

Happy Independence Day! Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
.הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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