Thursday, May 28, 2026

REPENTANCE FROM WITHIN

Parashat Naso
Sivan 14, 5783 / June 2-3, 2023
Torah: Numbers 4:21 - 7:89
Haftarah: Judges 13:2-25
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It's a mostly Rabbi Flom weekend at Temple B'nai Hayim - I'm conducting the Shabbat evening and morning services while Reb Jason has Shabbat off.  And on Sunday is our genizah burial service that Reb Jason and I will be conducting, with congregation participation. I hope to see as many of you as possible at one or two or all of these services. Come see our beautiful new davening space in the Deiber Chapel at Adat Ari El. The burial of holy books that are no longer usable can be a learning and also very moving experience.

Shabbat evening service: Zoom and Facebook Live - 7:00 pm
Shabbat Morning Service: In person, Zoom, and Facebook Live - 9:00 am
Genizah burial service: In person only - 12:00 noon - Sholom Memorial Park, 13017 Lopez Canyon Rd, Sylmar, CA 91342
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. 
We're continuing to read and discuss Ramban (Nachmanides) on the Book of Genesis.
On June 1, we'll be at https://www.sefaria.org/Ramban_on_Genesis.1.1.3?lang=bi  It is helpful to also have a chumash with Rashi or other commentary on hand.
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REPENTANCE FROM WITHIN

"The Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 'Speak to the Children of Israel: A man or woman who commits any of mankind's sins, to commit sacrilege against the Lord, and that person becomes guilty - they shall confess their sin that they committed - they shall make restitution for their guilt plus an additional one-fifth, and give it to the one whom they have wronged.'" Numbers 5:5-7

In his Mishneh Torah - Hilchot Teshuvah, Rambam (Maimonides) says that the commandment to confess is the foundation of teshuvah, repentance. For sins against God, we confess to God. For "mankind's sins", i.e., sins against our fellows, we confess to the person we injured and also to God - for sins against others are also sins against God.


Traditional depiction of Ramban (1194 - 1270)




Traditional depiction of Rambam (1135 - 1204)


Why confession? Shouldn't restitution, especially with an additional amount, be sufficient? If the guilty party has made the victim whole, what is the point of confession? Compare this with the American legal system. Every day, hundreds of lawsuits are settled with the payment of settlement money (not called "damages"), but with no admission of wrongdoing. We accept this as a way to end litigation, but we know intuitively that it is not the solution to the problem. It seems like the guilty party is buying a license - perhaps to sin yet again.

Why confession? In part, one must convince both humans and God that one will not commit the sin again. But many of us can be convincing actors. We might even convince ourselves. An answer may be found in the Hebrew grammar for the word "confess" which appears in verse 7. The word is hitvadu, a reflexive form of the verb. The point is to cause introspection, to find the true source of the wrongdoing, to avoid the blame game. Someone who has confessed, both outwardly and inwardly, who has thoroughly examined the self, is much less likely to commit another offense. Some things money can't buy! True repentance, the changing of one's attitudes and actions, comes from within.

Shabbat Shalom!
 
Rabbi Richard A. Flom - DD (HC)
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B'nai Hayim
הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם ?אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם
Who is wise? The one who learns from every person.
Ben Zoma - Pirkei Avot 4:1
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Thursday, May 21, 2026

PRESENT TENSE

Sivan 6-7, 5786 / May 21-23, 2026

Shavuot I - Friday
Torah: Exodus 19:1 - 20:23; Numbers 28:26-31
Haftarah: Ezekiel 1:1-28; 3:12

Shavuot II - Saturday
Torah: Deuteronomy 14:22 - 16:17; Numbers 28:26-31
Haftarah: Habakkuk 3:1 - 3:19
Additional reading: Book of Ruth
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of my beloved father, Martin Flom, whose yahrzeit falls on Saturday, Sivan 7. Y’hi zikhro barukh – his memory is a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of my beloved grandfather, Jacob Slome, whose yahrzeit falls on Sunday, Sivan 8. Y’hi zikhro barukh – his memory is a blessing.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. NO meeting on Monday, May 25. On June 1, we'll be reading and discussing Ramban's Commentary on the Book of Genesis. You can find the material here:

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PRESENT TENSE

"In the third month after the exodus of the Children of Israel from the land of Egypt, on this very day, they came into the wilderness of Sinai."  Exodus 19:1

"It was only necessary to write 'on that day'; what is the meaning of 'on this very day'?  In order that the words of the Torah should be new to you as if He gave them today." Rashi, citing Talmud Berachot and Midrash Tanchuma Yashan

Ever sensitive to the meaning of the words, the Rabbis questioned why the Torah uses present tense rather than past tense.  We should be familiar with at least one answer.  After all, the Rabbis formulated the blessing recited before the public reading of the Torah in the present tense - "Barukh atah ... notein hatorah" - "Blessed are You ... the One Who gives the Torah".


Ruth in Boaz's Field - Julius Schnorr von Carolsfeld, 1828

But I ask, what do the Rabbis and we really mean by "new to you as if He gave them today"?  At one level, at every public reading of the Torah, we should consider ourselves to be standing at the foot of Sinai, receiving the Torah for the very first time.  We re-enact this by standing when we read the Ten Commandments, in Parshat Yitro, which is also the reading for the first day of Shavuot, and in Parashat Va'etchanan.

At a deeper level, whenever we study Torah, as well as the Talmud, commentaries, or any other holy text, it not only ought to be "as if" new, it _is_ new.  Every day brings with it new experiences, knowledge and insights.  That means that today's understanding of a verse or passage is not necessarily what it will be tomorrow.  This is why Ben Bag Bag (Pirkei Avot 5:22) taught: "Turn it again and again, for everything is in it; contemplate it, grow gray and old over it, and do not swerve from it, for there is no greater good."

The Torah is not a relic of the past - for on this very day and every day, God is giving it to us.

Chag sameach v'shabbat shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim
הרחמן הוא יברך אותנו כולנו יחד בברכת אחוה, ובברכת אהבה,ובברכת שלום
May the Merciful One bless us, all of us as one, with the blessing of brotherhood, the blessing of love, and the blessing of peace.
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Thursday, May 14, 2026

THE TEST

Parashat Bamidbar
Iyar 29, 5786 / May 15-16, 2026
Torah: Numbers 1:1 – 4:2
Haftarah: Hosea 2:1-22

Shavuot - Sivan 6-7, 5786 / May 21-23, 2026
Torah (Day 1): Exodus 19:1 - 20:23
          (Day 2): Deuteronomy 14:22 - 16:17
Maftir (both days): Numbers 28:26-31
Haftarah (Day 1): Ezekiel 1:1-28; 3:12
             (Day 2): Habakkuk 2:20 - 3:19
Additional reading: Book of Ruth
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This d'var torah is offered in memory of my beloved father, Martin Flom, whose yahrzeit falls on Sivan 7. Y’hi zikhro barukh – his memory is a blessing.

This d'var torah is offered in memory of my beloved grandfather, Jacob Slome, whose yahrzeit falls on Sivan 8. Y’hi zikhro barukh – his memory is a blessing.
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. On May 18, we'll be reading and discussing Ramban's Commentary on the Book of Genesis. You can find the material here:


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THE TEST

“The Lord spoke to Moses in the Wilderness of Sinai, in the Tent of Meeting, on the first day of the second month, in the second year after their exodus from the land of Egypt, saying.” Numbers 1:1

This parashah, and the book of the Torah named for it, is called “Numbers” in English. But in Hebrew, it is “Bamidbar”, which means “in the wilderness”. The census taken in this parashah, the numbering, is done in the wilderness. The wilderness is a fearful place, with dangers both physical and spiritual. It is a place to be tested, to stand up and be counted.

The Wilderness of Sinai


The giving of the Torah will be commemorated on the holiday of Shavuot next week. In the Midrash, Bamidbar Rabbah, it is taught that the Torah was given in fire, in water and in the desert. In a sense, this wasteland where our ancestors ultimately would spend 40 years, serves as a forge. Just as a sword is hammered and shaped, plunged into fire and water and sand, and tested for durability, so were the Israelites.

Often, people having a life cycle event, whether a bar/bat mitzvah, wedding, graduation, or even a divorce or a death, feel they have passed a test. While that may be true, it is not the end, but the beginning. Now it is time to do something positive with the test results, and more especially with the knowledge and experience by which the passing grade was accomplished. It is life itself that is the ultimate test. And the Torah, given to our ancestors and to us, is the study guide.

Good luck on your exams!

Shabbat Shalom! Chag Shavuot Sameach!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim
הרחמן הוא יברך אותנו כולנו יחד בברכת אחוה, ובברכת אהבה,ובברכת שלום
May the Merciful One bless us, all of us as one, with the blessing of brotherhood, the blessing of love, and the blessing of peace.
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Tuesday, May 5, 2026

YOUR SIBLING'S KEEPER

Parashat Behar-Bechukotai
Torah: Leviticus 25:1 – 27:34 (Chazak!)
Haftarah: Jeremiah 16:19 - 17:14
Iyar 22, 5786 / May 8-9, 2026
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The National Association of Letter Carriers and the USPS are conducting their annual STAMP OUT HUNGER campaign this Saturday, May 9. For more info, go to:


Please help the community as best you can!
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Lunch and Learn meets Mondays at 12:30 PM on Zoom and Facebook Live. NO meeting on May 11. On May 18, we'll be reading and discussing Ramban's Commentary on the Book of Genesis. You can find the material here:


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YOUR SIBLING'S KEEPER

"And if your brother becomes poor and his strength fails him, you shall support him, whether he is a convert or a resident alien (read this as "a naturalized citizen or a resident non-citizen" - RAF), in order that he may live with you." Leviticus 25:35

The great Kabbalist of Tz'fat, Rabbi Moshe Alshikh (1508-1593), notes that earlier verses were in the second person plural. That is, the Torah had set up a social regime to be followed by the community as a whole. In our verse, however, the Torah switches to the singular. He says that, when a person needs help, everyone tries to shift responsibility to someone else, claiming that some other person is more closely related or has more means to help, or... You get the idea.

R. Alshikh says the singular verb teaches that each of us, individually, is responsible for helping the poor. One cannot absolve oneself of this obligation simply by referring the poor person to someone else.

But there’s much, much more at play here. The verse calls the poor person “your brother”, and it clearly means someone beyond only a sibling with closely-shared DNA. Rather, the verse implies that every human being is related to every other human being – we are all siblings. 


"The Creation of Adam" - ca. 1508-1512 - Michelangelo

The prophet Malachi (2:10) is explicit about this: “Do we not all have one father? Did not one God create us? Why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, profaning the covenant of our ancestors?” See also Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5: “...only a single human being was initially created for the sake of peace, so that no one should be able to claim lineage superior to another person…” 

You and I are each our siblings' keeper! If we don't support them, who will?

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Richard A. Flom
Rabbi Emeritus, Temple B’nai Hayim
הרחמן הוא יברך אותנו כולנו יחד בברכת אחוה, ובברכת אהבה,ובברכת שלום
May the Merciful One bless us, all of us as one, with the blessing of brotherhood, the blessing of love, and the blessing of peace.
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Parashat Sh’lach L’kha Sivan 28, 5786 / June 12-13, 2026 Torah: Numbers 13:1 - 15:41 Haftarah: Joshua 2:1-24 -------------------------------...