Monday, September 9, 2013

ROSH HASHANAH 5774 - DAY 1 - KERUV REQUIRES KORBAN


Rosh Hashanah 5774 Day 1 - Keruv Requires Korban

My fellow congregants! Shanah Tovah – gut yahr! It’s wonderful to see you all here. We are all glad to have Cantor Kerry Katz with us again this year. Thank you to Barry Glass for leading Pesukei D’Zimrah and Shacharit. Thank you to Doctor Fersht for his torah reading and haftarah. Regarding each of these individuals, serving as the shaliach tzibbur, the agent of the community, in leading prayer and performing various parts of the service is an awesome responsibility. Done with appropriate nusach and feeling, it serves both as prayer on behalf of the community and at the same time, helps turn our hearts and souls towards God and the spiritual messages of the day. We all know that there is no one right way to pray to God or to understand the meanings of the Yamim Noraim – these days of awe. Whichever way we reach out, I pray we reach our goal. Thank you also to Paul Miller, Jack Howland, and all of their helpers, thank God there were so many I can' remember who they all were, for schlepping our machzorim, sifrei torah, ark and other implements of prayer to the hotel. Finally, a big thank you to Elaine Kleiger for overseeing all of the arrangements with the hotel, handling tickets and membership, and all the additional things she does all year to keep us from bouncing around aimlessly.

We’ve had a moving service this morning, and the festivities will continue after this message from our sponsor.

I have one thing to say to you. What Goes Around Comes Around. That’s right. Well, we have all heard that phrase before. It is a very common kind of notion, that we get what we deserve, that if we are good, we will receive good, and if we are bad, we will suffer bad things, and so forth. It is also a very traditional Jewish notion, found throughout the Torah and especially in the book of Deuteronomy – for example, in the second paragraph of the Sh’ma. If you heed My commandments, says God, you will get the rain when you need it, and you will have ample harvests of grain, wine and oil. You will have abundant cattle. Etcetera. If you don’t heed Me, you will get no rain, no harvest, no cattle, and you will be driven from the land.

Need I add that it is also the apparent theology of the prayer Un’taneh Tokef – that God decides who will live and who will die. Don’t you wish you knew what God’s algorithm is? Wouldn’t it be sinisterly cool if there were some way to game the system, so that no matter what you do, God grants you life? I wonder how much THAT would go for in Silicon Valley! Well, I think we know all too well that whatever the system is, it sure doesn’t work that way!

Somehow, when we talk about God, we can’t accept this notion, that what goes around comes around from God, particularly because it seems unfair. I remember a cartoon, from the old Calvin and Hobbes comic strip, in which Calvin, the mischievous 9-year-old who is always getting himself in trouble, is grumbling about some misfortune which has befallen him. Because he is certain of his innocence, or at least certain that “what goes around does NOT come around,” he remarks, “It’s either random or arbitrary.” Nevertheless, we intuitively feel it to be so – what goes around comes around. In fact, I believe that there is something in human nature that wants it to be so, that needs it to be so – even if it doesn’t come from God. We want a moral universe that operates under a set of laws in the same way the physical universe is governed by the laws of physics. We need there to be reward and punishment, because that seems just. Right – that’s the justice we want. We teach this as a mantra to our children, with stories and lessons from our own lives.

Well, our Torah reading today has this very same lesson buried in it today, but we have to dig a little to find it.

Sarah had a handmaiden, a slave, really, Hagar, an Egyptian, who had borne a son, Ishmael, fathered by Abraham at Sarah’s insistence. Let’s also not forget it was Sarah’s idea and Abraham acquiesced.

Hagar was Sarah’s property, as was Ishmael. That was the law in the ancient Near East. At the same time, Ishmael was for many years Abraham’s sole heir. It is an incongruous situation, to say the least. It was made worse when Sarah and Abraham finally had a child of their own – Yitzchak (Isaac). Now, there was a legitimate, albeit younger heir, through the wife, not the slave.

It says in our reading that Sarah saw Ishmael “playing”. Playing? What’s wrong with that? Some translations say “making sport” and some early commentators understand it to mean that Ishmael was shooting arrows at Isaac. The Hebrew word used, “metzacheik”, can even mean sexually abusing. Whatever it was, Sarah got upset, and asked, no, she demanded, that Abraham send Hagar and Ishmael away. Sarah made Abraham a party to her crime, for in a very real sense it is a crime, by asking him to cast away other human beings. On top of that, Abraham did not object very strongly to this request, and God told him not to be very concerned about the matter. The problem is, Abraham didn’t concern himself with it at all.

Look at how Sarah refers to these people that are to be exiled – “that slave woman and her son”, not as “Hagar and Ishmael”. Totally objectified, nameless, completely dehumanized, they are sent into the desert to be out of sight, out of mind, to die of thirst. But an angel of God saves them, and Ishmael grows up to be the founder of a great nation, the Ishmaelites.

Now, as to our lesson, “what goes around, comes around”, here is where the digging begins. First, Hagar, when written in Hebrew without vowel sounds, which is the way it is written in the Torah, could also be pronounced HaGer, which means “the stranger.” She is the ultimate “stranger within your gates”. Not only is she a slave, Hagar is also an Egyptian. She is a foreigner and a piece of property. We know, from reading the Torah later in Genesis and Exodus, as well as from the Pesach Seder, that the Israelite descendants of Abraham spent centuries in Egypt as slaves. Was that a punishment for Abraham and Sarah’s mistreatment of Hagar and Ishmael? Were our ancestors made to know what it is like to be strangers and slaves, were they sent to Hagar’s homeland, because of what Abraham and Sarah did to Hagar and Ishmael? Is it true – what goes around, comes around – but to later generations?

The Midrash, the compendium of rabbinic interpretive texts, suggests that to be exactly the case. Our ancestors were indeed punished for what earlier generations had done. This seems unjust, does it not? The Torah itself tells us that children are not to be punished for the sins of their parents, with the exception of idol worship.

And yet, we also know that later generations often pay the price for the sins of earlier generations. Here are some examples that come to mind, small and large. We see that children born to drug abusers and alcoholics are often born with numerous physical or mental abnormalities. And our communities generally end up paying the medical and social bills, as well. On a grander scale are environmental disasters, like the Chernobyl nuclear meltdown, or the Exxon Valdez and Deepwater Horizon oil spills; the number of birth defects associated with children born to those exposed to Chernobyl’s radiation is quite higher than average. The waters, beaches and wildlife of Alaska and Louisiana are still recovering. Or better, how about the forty-five years of Soviet oppression in Germany, directly resulting from the Germans carrying out the Shoah and the war against their neighbors? The perpetrators of these disasters certainly deserve punishment – but their children, and their societies, have been punished, too. People do pay the price for their parents’ sins. Need I even mention the general state of our natural environment – global warming, pollution, extinctions? What we send around comes around to our children and our world!

But can some good come from the punishment? Well, one good thing that did come out of this business in the Torah, the hundreds of years of exile and slavery in Egypt, I believe, is the mitzvah, the oft-repeated commandment, to care for the stranger in our midst, because, as the Torah reminds us, “you were slaves in Egypt.” We are told to feed and clothe the stranger, not to oppress the stranger, because we were strangers in Egypt. It is difficult to be the other, as Jews have learned over two thousand years. To be a stranger in a strange land, with no family, no property, no food or clothing or shelter – an “it” instead of a person - what a terrible life.

But instead of shaking our heads in pity, or even worse, of ignoring the plight of the stranger, we have this beautiful mitzvah of caring for the other. It comes in a straight line from the most basic mitzvah of all – v’ahavta l’rayekha k’mokha – you shall love your neighbor as yourself.

We can care for the strangers in our midst in many ways. For one thing, consider that a stranger is not necessarily someone unknown to you – it might be someone who is estranged – who is distant from the community, perhaps through their own choice, perhaps through actions of the community, most typically because they are “victims of circumstances”.

It may well be that all that is necessary is to reach out and bring them back – it’s called keruv, drawing close. It’s from the same root as korban – a sacrifice. Al tifros min hatzibbur – do not distance yourself from the community, Hillel teaches us. It is equally an instruction to us to not let the community distance itself from individual members. A phone call, a note, a kind word, a pat on the shoulder, a shoulder to cry on – these and other small kindnesses may be all that are necessary to turn a stranger in our midst into friend – and into a member of our community.

The more frequent way to care for strangers in our midst, the usual korban, or sacrifice, is the giving of tzedakah, charity, or the performance of gemilut chasadim, deeds of loving-kindness. The roots of these words are indeed interesting. We all know what a chasid is – a pious person, one who wears baggy black suits and is very strictly observant of Jewish ritual, right? Not quite. A streimel doesn’t cut it! A true chasid is one who is kind to others. That’s real piety, that’s real chasidut, demonstrated as an act of love between two people, not a ritual act for the benefit of God – or the self. Gemilut chasadim can be acts as I already described, or donations of time, money or materiel that will probably never be repaid – at least not back into the wallet!

And tzedakah? It comes from the same root as tzaddik, a righteous person, and tzedek, which means justice. Giving tzedakah is not simply charity – it is a righteous act of justice, carried out in the face of a world which seems unjust – which to our way of thinking, is unjust!

We may think of tzedakah and gemilut chasadim as forms of sacrifice – korbanot - giving up something of value – but perhaps we should think of them as other forms of keruv – drawing those who are estranged from us closer, and drawing ourselves closer to a life of holiness and meaning.

This is what God wants from us! Pounding your chest doesn’t get the job done! Even confession of trespasses doesn’t get it done, unless it leads to constructive action! Every one of us has the potential to be a chasid, to be a tzaddik, to establish justice in the world by engaging in a type of korban, of sacrifice, and of keruv, by drawing the other, the stranger, the estranged one, closer to us – and thereby drawing ourselves closer to God.

In her book Rambam’s Ladder, Julie Salomon describes the various levels of charity, and how Rambam ranked them. What needs to be crystal clear is that these ranks, the rungs of the ladder, are absolutely meaningless if we do not first set the ladder against the walls that separate us and use that ladder to climb over the barrier ourselves. The ladder can equally serve to help the other, the ger, the stranger, to climb the wall themselves. We may need even to go down the ladder and bring the ger up with us – that kind of descent down the ladder, from a higher level to a lower one, is sometimes necessary. It’s exactly what the early chasidic rabbis taught. But first, we have to erect the ladder.

In the days and weeks to come, between the High Holy Days and Chanukah, and for that matter, every day for the rest of our lives, each of us is going to be constantly confronted with opportunities both large and small to make a difference in the life of another human being. Why does it matter? Because what goes around, comes around – somehow, someday. Acts of gemilut chasadim and tzedakah, kindness and charity, are not for our own benefit – they may not come around to us as individuals. I may never receive a reward for the good things I do. So what? This system isn’t about me – it’s about me in relation to everyone else, and to the world around me.

You can actually start right now, this very minute. Turn to someone here in this sanctuary, someone you don’t know as well as you should, someone you may not know at all, especially someone from whom you might be estranged in some way, and wish them a Shanah Tovah – a happy new year…..

When you leave here today, take with you the firm commitment to help the stranger and the estranged – with money, time, food, a job, emotional support, whatever it takes – and understand also that that person could be you. Next week, pledge to the synagogue to support its charitable and educational activities. We can’t pray together, we can’t learn Torah together, we can’t come together as a community to carry out God’s and our work in the world, if there is no place to actually do those things. The next time and every time you come to Beth Meier, bring a can or package of food for Sova. Or, volunteer your time at the synagogue or some other worthy organization that serves the community and the stranger. Money – materiel – time. Even if this doesn’t improve your life directly and immediately, and it probably won’t - even if you really have no control over what the coming year will bring for you, and let’s face it – you don’t - you actually can have an effect on the lives of those around you. Do not ignore the suffering of your fellow human being because – what goes around, comes around.

Let us not continue the sins of our ancestors, of rejecting the stranger in our midst. Not simply because of the potential consequences if we don’t, and not because of the potential personal reward if we do, but because we are commanded by God and our tradition to do it, and because it is the right thing to do. THAT is how we create a moral universe. Be a chasid. Be a tzaddik. Remember who saved Ishmael and Hagar? You could even be an angel! That is justice. That is the lesson of today’s reading. It was George Santayana who said, “Those who do not learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them.” Let us pledge this Rosh Hashanah morning to end the cycle of mistreating the other.

I wish you all a year of sweetness and happiness and all that is good, a year of Torah and mitzvot, of chasidut and tzedakah, a year of love and caring, for ourselves and for the other.

L’shanah tovah u’metukah tikateivu v’tichateimu – May we inscribe ourselves and our community for a good and sweet new year! Shanah tovah!

 

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